Breast cancer spread to lungs, liver, bones and brain

Hello Ackaademis 

I'm sorry to hear you news about your mum . You sound as if you just need some clear answers to your concerns. Can you somehow ask if you could go with your mum to one of her appointment's with your step dad as well? It won't be easy but it might help a lot. Do you know what the oncologists have said to your mum about prognosis? I'm sorry you are feeling so overwhelmed it's a bit like my daughter felt at the beginning of my cancer journey. Why don't you ring your local Maggie's center and get some counciling  for yourself so that you can find out the best way to look after yourself and your mum? Maggie's like Macmillan look after families as well as patients. Keep strong and remember you must look after yourself in order to look after your mum x 

Take care thinking about you Jayne X 

Hi  I’m so sorry to read about your mum and the treatment she is having to go through. It’s sounds like they are doing lots to help her but I get that you don’t want to ask her lots of questions. I just wanted to suggest that you could maybe ask your stepdad to record the appointment on his phone, then not only can you listen to them after but I find that there’s a lot to take in at appointments and probably a lot that they are forgetting too. 
Macmillan offer lots of help for families so definitely don’t be afraid to ask for support for yourself. x

Because of the Covid restrictions I wasn't allowed someone to come with me, so when I've been to my hospital appointments I have phoned up my relative / friend and put the phone on loud speaker so they can listen in ask the occasional questions and take notes for me. Hope the next appointment is easier for you all.