Just diagnosed, but feeling numb

Hello, 

Sorry to hear about your diagnosis & genuinely don’t think there is a right or wrong way to react. I guess we all have different levels of resilience based on our history and what is going on in our lives. Equally some people are more comfortable expressing their emotions than others. 

I have cried less than I thought I would but feel irritated by it all - and often by other people some of whom have surprised me with their lack of care or sensitivity. I’m not sure how much of that is down to having to go cold turkey on HRT though! 

Just go with the flow & know you have a community of people here to support you if you ever need it. 

Hi sylvershadowfox

Welcome to the forum and sorry to hear that you have been diagnosed with breast cancer. LIke Elphaba said there is no right or wrong way to feel about a cancer diagnoses. Everyone reacts differently. When I was diagnosed I wasn't really surprised as I suspected I had breast cancer after they found a lump I didn't know about under my armpit.

Wishing you the best of luck with your mri and treatment.

Best wishes

Daisy53

Hiya, sorry to hear about your diagnosis, I've joined this group only 2 days ago and already I have been reassured on many things!

When I was diagnosed, I was in complete shock, even though the lump was stiking out of my chest like a huge insect bite, that's all I thought it was. 

You will go through so many emotions and all of them are perfectly normal. I've been putting on a brave face and staying as positive as I can be but yesterday I hit rock bottom and sobbed all day. That's not like me at all. 

I think you have to take every day as it comes, some days will be completely overwhelming and other days you will be absolutely fine. I'm 1 week after a lumpectomy and lymph nodes removed,  I get my results next week. It's been a roller coaster ride of emotions, some I didn't know I had in me.

Do whatever makes sense to you, sending virtual hugs to you x

Hi sylvershadowfoxsylvershadowfox

I was excatly the same, I went oh right OK, at my results then an awkward silence and the BCN suggested we went into another room.

And unfortunately it's now just become the norm, just received a letter for my 4th set of results.

No tears from the very beginning. I want no discussion on it,  I do my own research and deal with what's put in front of me. 

At times it's like it's not really happening (it so very is), my 3rd lumpectomy was Friday had the bank holiday off and went back to work Tuesday, I'm I trying to hard I don't know but we all del with these things differently, no right or wrong just differently 

Take care x

Hi Sylvershadowfox 

Yes I think so I was a little like that I think that subconsciously we expect the news so it doesn't come as a shock to us   . Hope you are ok and that treatment starts soon and you on the path to recovery 

Jayne XXX 

Thank you all so much, your words have been reassuring. 
I shall just plod along as always, lol.

wishing you all the best x

Hi, how are you feeling now? X

Hello Silvershadowfox (great name btw!), yes I was diagnosed just one week ago and have mostly felt quite numb/detached too. I think it is probably a coping mechanism so that we can deal with everything to come. 

I´ve mostly been mopping up others´ tears from people around me tbh! Typical!

Keep chatting on here if it helps 

XX

Hi sylvershadowfox,

Nice to meet you abd sorry to hear about your diagnosis. I was diagnosed with HER2+ invasive ductal breast cancer in July and too found that I was pretty together when told. Had a few tears when cancer was confirmed 99.9% but then thanked the Dr  abd headed home to await the dates for scans and biopsy.. I have had mostly good positive days with some bumps in the road. I try to be kind to myself and not let my mind run away with me and I am very lucky to be able to continue to work when I feel up to it. I surround myself with happy people who help me remain as normal as I can. I think it’s important to remember who you are and that we are not just a diagnosis or disease. I am looking after me and letting my cancer team look after this horrible disease. Chemo is my friend, sometimes I don’t like her but she is working hard to help me 

Everyone has there own way of coping and dealing with it, you will find your way and remember it’s about you and no one else. Only you know how you feel and it’s perfectly ok to feel it. I have found this forum to be very supportive and there is always someone to help and talk too. Take it easy and one day at a time xx