New here and waiting for appointment

Hello Mrs Watson

None of us want to be here but we are.  It is a huge shock and quite devastating.  I completely understand how you feel.  It is especially difficult when you have children, mine are grown up and I found it hard to tell them. I hope you are able to share your news with your partner or a relative or very good friend?  You can ask them not to tell the children for now.  Until you have confirmation that it is not a benign lump and apparently 80% are just that, try to keep yourself busy and to enjoy your time with your children.  The waiting is so difficult and it is very hard to keep all the terrible thoughts away that come into your head at this time.  I hope that you will get an appointment soon and that you will find out that all is well.  If not treatment has come a long way and many people go on live a full and happy life when their problem has been dealt with.  It is good that you have found it and are on the road to treatment.  It all happens very quickly doesn't it? Everyone on here is very kind and supportive.  If you want to cry, do so, if it helps.  Wishing you all the best and sending you a virtual hug.

Hello Thirds 

thank you for your kind words it’s really appreciated it certainly is a whirlwind. I feel like I’m having an out of body experience.. I try and avoid touching my breast wherever possible which sounds so silly it’s like Ive subconsciously disowned my breast. 

My husband knows and he’s supportive but I keep trying to bottle it up because so far it’s just a lump and I’m conscious I’m jumping the gun 

x

Hello Mrs Watson

The waiting is the worst, for sure. What we know we can deal with. I hope that your fears turn out to be unfounded. However, as Thirds has said, if not, treatment has come on in leaps and bounds in recent years. 

I have found this group to be an invaluable source of help and support. Let us know how things go for you. Whatever it turns out to be, there will be someone on here who has had exactly the same and gone through the process before you.

I hope that you do not have too long to wait now that you have found the lump. You wont feel like it now, but it is actually a good thing that you discovered it. We all understand the desperation to know what is what with it, as we have been there before you. 

You are on your way now and your specialist team are steering the bus and they will get you sorted. 

Wishing you all the best.

Wallydug

Thank you Wallydug I’ll definitely post and update once I get one.

this forum has been a godsend for me today today x

Hi Mrs Watson, waiting is the worst time, I reiterate everything the others have said. Also a mum as many of us are who find ourselves in this crap club and it’s incredibly frightening. We’re here to help and when you know what you’re dealing with I’m sure we’ll all share our experiences of what we’ve told our kids, what’s worked, what hasn’t. For now focus on you, on getting your diagnosis and what’s ahead. Try not to get ahead of yourself as hard as that is, remember that lump currently is just a lump for now and if it’s more the range of what ‘more’ can mean is huge. All the best a d let us know how you’re getting on xx

Hi Anna12345

thank you for your kind words, I feel guilty for posting what I now feel might be a little prematurely.. I now have an appointment for Monday late afternoon so whilst not long to wait it also feels an age. 

I’ll be sure to post whatever the outcome is on this post. Best of luck on your journey x

Do not feel guilty!!! You didn’t post prematurely at all, you posted at exactly the right time because you needed support. I’m so pleased your appointment came through for Monday and hope you get more answers then, please let us know how you get on xx

Anna12345 is absolutely right in what she has said.  Please do not feel guilty about posting on here and seeking support. We are all here to support one another.  Hopefully your lump will be benign but it does not detract from the terror (and I use that word advisedly) of finding the lump.  Your mind races on ahead and your feelings are very genuine.  Do let us know how you get on and I hope that Monday will bring good news. All the best and sending you a hug.  Take care.

Thirds Anna12345

thank you so very much for your kind words and virtual hugs. I promise to update as soon as I know. Take care of yourselves and speak soon x

Sorry I’ve been a while since posting. My ultrasound and additional checks by the team has resulted in me being given the all clear. I have to have a recheck in a years time but for now they are happy to park it all. 

I just want to say i will forever be appreciative of the support you have given me in my short journey here. And I wish you all the very best xx