Reconstruction and silcone help needed

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Hi all after 13 mths of right Removal and chemo and radiotherapy plus hubby leaving thought that after last week finally having expander out silcone in and other reduced and lifted i should be on cloud nine…but i hate them ive gone from ok droppy 38ff to maybe b at most infact silcone one looks flat (495cc teardrop put in ) im waiting for Psycho counseling as my braca came back negative even though I’ve had breast cancer twice,as wanted no more risk and have healthy one removed and silconed…. Now i know im swollen but that means they be even smaller and i be 60 in dec so always big breasts girl, i cant lose weight im slim so what now,…

am i just being selfish..can i ask for bigger if i get ok to have other done,,,any help advise please.

Carolyn28 over 3 years ago

hi Raeskarma I haven't been here for a while and I'm not entirely sure how the new style site works.

You're not being selfish, you are taking time to process what's happened to you.

Your world has not only been turned upside down, it's been given a good shake too. No wonder you're rattled.

I was diagnosed just as I was going through the menopause and frankly I'd have settled for a few hot flushes.

Some would say I was slow to react, but I don't think there is a correct time frame. 12 months, 2 years, 5 ? 10 ?

Mostly change happens at a manageable pace, we age slow enough that we don't really notice until one day we look in the mirror and wonder what the hell happened ...

I found counselling a bit hit and miss but even if it's a chance to vent or unburden yourself it should help. I found it helpful to come here and have a rant in The Room.

I asked my surgeon for 'smaller' but his reaction was why bother with an A cup, so they will have different opinions.

well done on surviving breast cancer twice, by the way!

Take time to get used to how you look, try and relax and see how you feel.

What do you do day to day? What distractions do you have?

Carolyn

xxx

real life success stories to remind you that people do survive breast cancer

https://community.macmillan.org.uk/cancer_types/breast-cancer/f/38/t/115457

Dr Peter Harvey

https://www.workingwithcancer.co.uk/wp-content/uploads/2013/03/After-the-treatment-finishes-then-what.pdf

Raeskarma over 3 years ago in reply to Carolyn28

Ah. Thaankks i dont have work as covid closed it permanently, i dont have counseling as been begging for over year as with abusive husband taken away within weeks of told cancer, losing breast, joemo etc, i was wondering how the hell i was goin to cope, as for 20yrs he controlled everything and shut me off … but i just put big pants on and still daily put smile on face (fake it till i make and step forward even if small, its hard but if i look back 15mths ago ive changed and

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