Confused and scared

• Rga - I’m sorry to learn of your diagnosis, but try to relax. You have caught the cancer early. My wife has had two cases of breast cancer: the first when she was 50, 31 years ago. She had a lumpectomy, followed by chemotherapy and radiation. When they told us the diagnosis, we both could not believe it and burst into tears. She got through the treatment and was fine until 6 years ago when she was diagnosed in the other breast. We at least knew what was coming, so we didn’t feel so bad. Again a lumpectomy, but only three weeks of radiation. She passed the 5 years cancer free. Unfortunately, she is now fighting another, different cancer, but she is tough!
• The lumpectomy is fairly minor and the radiation is probably three weeks, five days per week. It might make you feel tired. The inconvenience is having to go for radiation every day.
• Good luck and talk to others to share your concerns. You’ll be fine.

It is a scary time when you first get diagnosed and I was the same as you I could not remember anything. I was diagnosed on the 6th April things are moving quickly for me now and they will for you. hey will take good care of you and the breast care nurses will answer any questions you have. I found the best advice I was given was to take each day as it comes so you don’t get overwhelmed. The ldies on here have helped me so much with support. Dont struggle alone come on here X️Good luck and let us know how it goes X

Hello....

This ia always the worst point in a cancer diagnosis. No wonder you feel confused and scared. Once your treatment plan is clarified , you will feel more in control.

Did you go by yourself yesterday? Perhaps there are still Covid restrictions? If it is possible, go with someone next time. It's easier to remember what is said and what to ask with two.

I'm so pleased you have found this site though. You will find a lot of support here. On the treatment thread, you will find monthly radiotherapy ( and should you need it...) chemotherapy posts. There you will find others who are at exactly the same stage of treatment and you can share your suggestions and anxieties.

On the Chat section is the Awake thread. It is a chat group on which you can express your concerns, be angry, or just have a laugh. The people who contribute may have been diagnosrd and cancer clear for sometime or like yourself be newly diagnosed. It was started by someone who realised that sometimes we just need to share our feelings with others who can empathise. Family and friends often try but don't always understand. Often there are people posting through the night and even if no one else is awake someone will find your post in the early morning. My own cancer was found by mammogram in 2015. Like yours,  it was an early find. After my lumpectomy my surgeon told me that the cancer had gone. Further treatment was to prevent recurrence.  It wasn't always easy....but here I am writing to you over five years later, still cancer clear. Be encouraged....most breast cancers can be removed and treated these days.

I hope you  get a plan soon. Keep in touch. Don't worry if you need to ask questions on this site. We will try between us to answer from our shared experiences. Someone once said that the only silly question is one that isn't asked!

Take care of yourself today. 

Love Karen

Thanks everyone for their replies. 
It’s made me feel a little better. 
I think I just get overwhelmed and panic. 
I’ll take one day at a time and join the chats ️️ thanks everyone xx 

Hi Rha 1. I was diagnosed on Monday with what seems to be the same at this stage regarding no treatment plan yet. I have to go next Thursday/Friday for the plan. Just wanted you to know that there ireally good helpful advice on here and that others are with you all the way. Thank you ladies for your helpful advice. X