Hello

Hi lovely , don’t panic cancer its very curable this days no matter what stage and grade . You in a right place and you will get treatment as all of you. I have IDC grade 3 and just about to start chemotherapy. When i first find out about cancer it took me 8 weeks to sort my head and since February i still thinking that its not me ... i told my kids 21 and 11 at the very same day when i find out , I explained to them every single bit of it. Any scan appointments and waiting for results its all of us not only me... its not your fault that you got cancer . Very soon you will get your full diagnosis with numbers and her2 and treatment will start . Good luck with your journey... xx

Hi 

You must be terrified- I’m guessing you had already just got your head around the breast cancer diagnosis, then to be given potentially more bad news must be heartbreaking. Until you have your MRI the things they have noticed may just be normal things such as cysts, but you still have to process the whole situation. If those suspicious areas turnout to be cancerous too, there are many women on here who have lived with secondary cancer for many, many years, the oncologists have a whole raft of treatments to offer nowadays. I was diagnosed with primary breast cancer just under 5 years ago and have been staggered at how many new treatments there are now, for both primary and secondary cancer , so please don’t give up hope. My S-I-L was diagnosed with secondary breast cancer last Christmas, and was in despair , and pain, she is now on treatment and is in a much better place and positive about the future, she knows she can’t be cured but can be treated and hopes to live for many more years yet. How old are your children? If they are young there is lots of support and books, counselling etc to help, older adult children not as much, my SIL just rang them all individually, they knew she was having tests and she had hinted it may not be good news. They seem okay, so far, particularly now she is in a good place.

Hope you get good news but if not please try and stay positive, and there are some lovely ladies on here who will help you through dark times and help you laugh when you need a lift.

Jo x