Sister refusing chemo

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Hello everyone

My sister is constantly looking for alternative "natural ways" to escape the chemo she is due to start this month.... She has told me shes not going to do it and then me and my mom manage to get her back on track with carrying on with the idea of accepting it. Her husband and best friend are both idiots that "support " her in this lunatic ideas of refusing all what is being advised by doctors and"go natural" . They think cancer can be cured with meditation and herbs.... And are even planning a trip abroad while on chemo to some lunatic gathering aka "spiritual retreat" . I am very keen on her meditating and doing yoga or whatever she wants as long as it doesnt interfeer with the change of saving her life ,menaung i obviously dont want her to refuse chemo or any other advised medical treatment. As ive been fighting sooo hard to not let her abandon the idea of stating chemo , she is pushing me further and further away saying "i stress her out" and therefor im not allowed in her house anymore and she barely talks to me now. How am i supppossed to get some sense into her without making her reject me and push me away? Can you guys help me please , maybe there is someone here that has a enlightning story to share with her ? Could you get in touch with me please so that i can arrage for your story to be told to her ? I think that can really help her .please . I domt know what else to do.... 

  • Hi there, it was based on my Prosigna test and information that my oncologist gave me.  

  • based on my Prosigna test and information that my oncologist gave me.  

    Thanks for clarifying, I now understand that the 3% difference was specific to you, not a general statistic.

    This has now reminded me of a situation where I was offered a drug as added possible preventon against future cancer, but the probabilities of possible benefits and possible risks were balanced, so there was no recommendation either way. Was it the same for you with the offer of chemo or were they still recommending it?

  • My sister refused traditional treatment for her breast cancer recurrence and died a tear and a bit later after months in a hospice. I have massage sometimes at my local hospital, where another woman with breast cancer refused treatment and the cancer grew into her skin and made it blistered and weep. I don't know how long she left it, trying diets and oils, but it was not good by the time she made it to hospital.

    Chemo isn't for everyone, and if the gain is 0-3% it's not advised, 3-5% is a grey area and above that there is clear benefit. Unlike many cancers which work on a 5 year survival rate most oncologists work in 10 year one as unless it's TNBC and possibly HER2+ brest cancer then it is possible to have a recurrence 10, 15 or even 20 years later. Maybe ask her to look at the Breast Predict link? You've not given any details about what type, size, nodes or not etc., all of which are really important!

    “Remember to look up at the stars and not down at your feet.  Stephen Hawking,
  • Hi chemo was recommended but once he talked me through the risks and benefits pLis the low percentage benefit, it was my decision not to go ahead with it.   He did agree benefit was very low and didnt try and talk me around.