This is my down day

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Hiya to all you lovely ladies that are in the same boat as me, I'm sorry to be moaning. However today has been my meltdown day Cry totally out of character, totally not me, totally despairing!

And I hate this feeling, to everyone I face I act positive, I'm fine, it's a blip I can deal with, it's only hair, the list goes on. But on the inside I'm a wreck.

This is my second time with BC, 2012, mastectomy after DCIS. I dealt with it, had surgery, went back to work full time, no other treatment just the tamoxifen.

2021, discovered BC same side, invasive grade 3, had two further surgeries, and now on 3× EC, ( which iv had 2), and then 3 Docetaxel.

I'm sorry to moan, it's a waste of energy, but I just using this platform as my release valve, I'm not wanting to depress anyone. You are all so positive, I just need to get my act together.

I think this was my meltdown point this morning.what a mess, one brush and this came out.  It's only hair isn't it. I think if I stand on the garden I won't have to shave it off, it will just blow away.

I'm sorry for the moan, it's of my chest now. 

I'm wishing you all the best, and carry on with the positive vibes.

Thank you xx

  • Sending massive hugs 

    Please never apologise , you're not moaning , this is a traumatic journey we’re all on and every single feeling you have is valid 

    Facing this a second time must have been a shock , I think you’re allowed a cry , a moan or whatever you bliddy like ! 
    I’ve spent most of the weekend crying and worrying and you’re right , it’s not the best use of energy but these feelings need to come out , it’s not good to keep them locked inside 

    We are all feeling or have felt or are still to feel how you are right now so always come on and vent away if you feel like it 

    We are all supporting you and each other 

    loads of love 

    L xx

  • Thank you dollydimple, I know that this is the only place in the world that truly knows how we are feeling, inside. 

    Thank you for being there and understanding. Sending love back your way xx

  • Yeah I’d be crying today too if I were you. Bloody rubbish and horrible when your hair does that, no amount of prep can actually prep you for the shock and heartbreak. Yes we can say whatever we like but some days we just don’t have the energy for the gloss and bullPoop. Here is exactly the right place to let it out, we all try hard for each other to be positive and not scare others sharing our experiences but wth!! Sometimes we can’t manage it. Actually I think sometimes having a good old cry and a mope is helpful, helps us acknowledge those feelings and then somehow you get the strength for another day. Massive hugs to you and to you Dollydimple x

  • Thank you Anna, after the meltdown, and my moan, I kicked myself up the backside, pulled up my big britches, and did the big shave! 

    Now I feel back in control, and onward I go. I think that the meltdown did me a favour tbh. But it's lovely that we are all holding each other up. Thank you for that xxx

  • Good for you. Yes I shaved mine too at the same point. I’m pleased you’re feeling a bit brighter and the meltdown helped, sometimes you need it xx

  • Aw thanks lovely 

    and back to you ! Xx

  • Good for you Muscle tone1 

    glad it helped xx

  • Back in control HeartHeart

  • You wear it well. I felt like Annie Lennox for a while, that cheered me up a bit! Rofl