Feeling lonely

Sorry to hear you are feeling low and lonely today.

When you post on here you aren’t alone…..you have lots of people to support you or you can just vent! We don’t mind being a sounding board

Have a look on the Awake thread for chit chat and a few laughs.

I think a lot of people get the January blues after all the build up to Christmas and COVID doesn’t help especially if you are trying to be extra careful.As far as friends and family are concerned they probably think you are coping well and don’t need them.Have you got a best friend you can confide in? 

Has your local hospital got a Maggies centre or something where you can go for a coffee and a chat?

Maybe your little boy has picked up that you are low or maybe he’s just coming down from Christmas.

sending you a virtual hug x

Hello Doria

So sorry to read that you are feeling the blues. I think most of us here have had days like that. As you and XRaygirl say, Covid has indeed made everything worse with regard to social support. On my down days I try  to make a point of forcing myself out for a walk. Maybe not far if the weather is bad. It always lifts my mood. Maybe you have a friend or family member who would chum you and it somehow doesn't seem that I seem too needy, if I ask folk if they fancy a walk. 

You say you a struggling with your relationship with your son at the moment. Does he know about your health situation ? My sons are grown up, so managing the needs of such a young one  while getting through the BC treatment process is not something I have direct experience with. I think I read on here in the past that someone had got  advice to help and support them with their relationship with their child from the McMillan telephone service. This might be worth considering.

I hope today is a better day for you.

All the best and a big virtual hug.

WalltDug

Thank you for your reply, Exraygirl.

I think you´re right, it probably is a case of January blues on top of other things.

And I guess that´s possible too that friends and family think I´m doing just fine as I haven´t said anything. I do have a close friend who lives nearby and we did go for a walk yesterday morning which was nice.

I think it´s just odd going from having lots of offers of help and so on to now not much. I guess my cancer is no longer a novelty 

The hospital I go to doesn´t have a Maggie´s no but there is a psychologist there I could talk to I guess but I´m not sure that´s exactly what I´m asking for.

My little boy could well be coming down from Christmas, yes! We spent a bit of time last night reading together and that was nice. He´s pushing back in terms of boundaries etc and I´m trying to remind him of them but without losing my cool or being too hard on him.

Thanks for the hugs xxx

Hi WallyDug,

Thanks for your reply. You´re right a walk does help and I went for one yesterday morning with a friend and our dogs which was a good way to start the day.

Yes my little boy does know about my health situation and he has been seemingly dealing with it quite well but I´m not so sure now. As I said above, he is pushing back a lot on certain rules or boundaries and maybe that´s a typical thing at his age but I´m just finding it hard as it seems out of character and hard on top of my current battle with bc.  

That is a good idea about asking for advice from the Macmillan telephone service, I might try that.

Hugs back to you xx