Stupid question - have I got cancer

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Hi all. This is silly but all my family think I’m over everything now snd life should go back to normal.  They say you haven’t got breast cancer. You’ve had your op you’ve had your radiotherapy. It’s gone. 
so why do I feel that I’ve still got it? Have I? Am I in remission? Am I cured? 
i still feel scared and I keep thinking about it coming back or coming back elsewhere. I can’t just forget it. 
i had my op in early august and I finished rads 3 weeks ago. I just can’t be normal right now. I’mc still feeling weepy although I get u should be feeling happier. What a state. 
sorry. Just feeling a bit low. Xx

  • Not long back from physio and now quite sore. She says I have 5 maybe 6 definite cords which must be achy. Uh yup. Although she wouldn't say I had lypmphodema I am swollen so have had measurements taken of both arms, been fitted with a sleeve, been taped up, got more exercises to do and am going back next week. In the scheme of things, only having finished rads 4 weeks ago its very early stages. She said side effects can last 6-12 months after and for some even longer. Useful to get info she did mention that due to covid the follow ups are being missed and they are seeing more people with issues. Just keeping on going x

  • Thank you all so much for your helpful replies. It’s good to know I’m not the only one who feels as I do. 
    I’m going to try to think of my self as in recovery until I have seen the oncologist in December. 
    I’m the meantime I’m going to try to express my feelings to my family. Xx

  • Oh no ! You poor thing. That sounds horrible. Hope you feel better. As you said just keep going. Sending hugs x

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    That is not a stupid question, but the one a friend asked recently probably does qualify: “If you need a mastectomy on one side and you have big breasts why can’t they just transfer a lump of the good breast to the mastectomy side?” (Possible answer: because breasts aren’t made of play dough?)

  • I have had 2 stepdaughters ask me if I'm now O.K. One of them is someone who had a stillborn child and was months in depression. I think she understands the worry about re-occurence. I used to say to others not to worry about that, but now that it's me, it actually is a worry. Solution is to continue with active hormone treatment and check breasts I guess and have the mammograms, try and remain as active as possible.

  • OMG !!!!!!! That has to qualify as the best comment yet !!!!!!