New here. Looking forward to exchanging with other partners of those with terminal cancer. I can't do this alone.

Hello,

I am so sorry that you are having to deal with such devasting news. Mostly the contributors in this group have actually got BC themselves and the threads discuss their treatment and their progress.

But Macmillan has a group for Friends and families which I think will give you the support you are needing at the moment. There you should find a shared experience which may help you over the coming weeks.

I hope you find the help you need. There is also a Macmillan phone line if you need to talk things through in person to someone. 

Take care. Karen

Thank you. My apologies for intruding, and I wish you all the very best possible.

Really happy to have you on and feel free to stay in both forums I think lacomtekp just means you might get more support on the other forum. There is another gentleman who is part of this group and posts and is also very welcome, can’t recall his sign on. There are also children of patients on here looking for advice, we’re very happy to answer any questions we can and any concerns you have for your wife, so sorry you find yourself here and this has happened to you, please do keep reaching out for support and for any individual concerns you have and love and hugs to you and your partner x

Sorry as Anna12345 says I didn't mean you weren't welcome but I just thought there were other groups suited to your needs. I thought it might be hard for you on this thread as although we discuss treatments and their associated problems , we also chat about improvements to our situations.

But if you just want to chat to virtual ears, we're all very good listeners too.

Hello and welcome but sorry you find yourself here.

Such a difficult time and it's so difficult dealing with a loved one fighting for their life.  How is your wife coping?  Is she having palliative care treatment.  There are quite a few women on here with stage 4 cancer living with it, not dying from it and actively undergoing treatment.

I know you are scared and wondering what the future hold, something none of us know.  I was diagnosed with BC in 2015 and was scared as my mother died of bowel cancer when I was 24 and then I lost one of my sisters to brain cancer 3 years prior to my diagnosis.  I wondered if it was my turn as both my mother and sister died within weeks of diagnosis but here I am kicking about annoying my husband still.

When my sister had her diagnosis there was no hiding it was very bad, the survival rate for GBM4 brain tumours is not good at all.  I asked her if she wanted to talk to someone outside the family as we were all so emotionally invested and she would hold back her fears to us.  she said yes but sadly no time to arrange.  She did speak to the priest who visited her in hospital before she had surgery (he was a local priest who travelled up to see her so knew our family).  Although not religious she did find it helpful and it gave her peace.  Just a suggestion but as your wife if she needs to talk to someone outside the family.  I don't want to sound harsh but sometimes those closest to the person are not the easiest to talk to.

Your wife might also like to join this forum.

Secondary breast cancer

Thank you so much for your kind message. I appreciate your pointing me to another group, because I think your intuition is right. I am checking out the friends and families and caregiver group(s). Really, all the best to everyone here.