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Please ask your surgeon what they would recommend for a family member . 
Speak to others on here regarding mastectomy . 
I decided to get immediate reconstruction to get it all done at once and get on with my life . 
I was petrified !! Absolutely petrified! But the thought of going back filled me with horror but of course some ladies never bother with reconstruction at all . All very personal . 
I was 62 at the time . I was in theatre over 13 hours - awful for my family but I knew nothing . I woke up hungry !! But of course I could only get water . But as I said I woke up and said I’m hungry then back in my room - I thought oh do they have TVs in heaven ? Note heaven , I was sure I wouldn’t go to hell !!! Then I counted my front teeth - I had been frightened I might have got some knocked out !!! I had absolutely no pain . I did what my lovely nurse ( one to one nurse ing for 10 hrs ) said to do , drinking water all night . 
Next day I was sending selfie’s to my family and friends - I was high as a kite ! Next day very weepy due to anaesthetic wearing off . Still no pain . I was in hospital just over a week . Mixed emotions - no pain . I went home with no drains . Recovery was emotional with lots of highs and lows but no pain . I went through a period of not wanting to look at myself and covered my mirrors , I phone the district nurses snd asked if they would check my wounds , they were just too happy to visit me - all was well and I slowly looked in the mirror , everything was excellent and they are definitely sisters. Everything was text book . The experience is now filed away in the back of my mind . 
I started chemo 6 weeks after my operation. I’ve filled in my profile if you want a read . If I hadn’t needed chemo I would have been fit to drive and work . 
take your time 

love 

Ruby Rose  

Hi , i was feeling the same when i find out about cancer . I had mastectomy on 10 th of March and same time reconstruction and i can tell you all went well . Many of us doing what the doctor recommend, to be honest as less you reading about it in google its only better for you. Infection can happen at any time in our life with out reconstruction , its everyones decision . My surgeon Recommended and I followed they advise, yes you absolutely right its a lot to take but with the time you will learn to do step by step. In two months time i learned to wait , I learned to listen and i learned to move on with my diagnosis. Please listen to your body and enjoy every day its new day...x

Thank you for your message, I have to learn to take it slow, do what’s best for me personally and my family x

Hi Suzyq41, I had a Mastectomy last year 23rd November. When I knew I had breast cancer I had already decided I would push for a mastectomy but they suggested it anyway because of the size of my Cancer. I have decided not to have reconstruction but I am so small on my other side that there’s really no point. My Partner has been supportive of me through all this and we’ve been together so long that he’s just taking it in his stride. It’s not an easy decision to make but like you say there is always the chance of reconstruction at a later date. 
Take care

Janine x

Hi neenie29

thanks for your message, the cancer they have found us tiny in the area of 1 biopsy site the other biopsy site near my arm is benign but they don’t know what’s happening in the middle, hence my decison for mastectomy as I don’t want to go back and have more surgery a couple of weeks later,  I’m large in the breast area so would need reconstruction if I decided, need to get myself sorted physically and mentally, hubby and kids have been amazing and fully support my decision you take care and I will keep you posted xx

Yeah definitely keep me posted and wish you all the best moving forward. X