But not a very patient one!
I've at least got a diagnosis, it's invasive ductal cancer grade 2, but still small, oestrogen receptive but looks as if I might get away with the lymph nodes....and maybe not too much treatment afterwards?
Complex plan, but to begin with, a sentinel node (plus another one or so) removal as day surgery, (a nuclear medicine visit first to get 'the jab' for them to trace) then a gap while that, plus the HER result come back, then because of my previous surgeries for cysts and the fact one resulted in a massive haematoma, therefore scar tissue, I will have a complete mastectomy with an implant. That will be immediately after Easter.
By finding out as much as possible beforehand, the surgeon hopes to prevent too many operations. Obviously I will then need Tamoxifen or similar, so will appreciate helpful advice about that.
But I'd be interested on anyone's 'take' on her plan. I feel reassured that she took time with me, and the BC nurse afterwards spent a good while too.
Hugs xxx
My most heartfelt condolences to you and your family Moomy, you’ve all shown him exactly how much he meant to you all and he’d have been in no doubt of your love. I hope you comfort and support each other in these coming days and can remember the amazing times you have spent together. Much love to you all x
Sending hugs. Glad ýou had your family around you. He is at peace and watching over you now xx
For you all.....there are no words to ease to loss you must feel. Thank you for allowing us to get to know your ' hubs' over the last few months, even if only virtually. We have met your cornerstone, a loving, caring family man. Now he can have the pain free peace he so deserves. Whilst it can't fill the gap he leaves, you have your many memories to share and reflect upon over the coming months. Hopefully it will help a little.
I was asked to read this poem when my father -in- law died. I always felt that if I lost OH, I would find comfort in the words. Perhaps you will too?
Do not stand by my grave and weep,
I am not there
I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow,
I am the diamond glints in snow,
I am the sunlight on the ripened grain,
I am the gentle Autumn rain.
When you awaken in the morning's hush, I am the swift uplifting rush of birds in flight,
I am the soft stars that shine at night.
Do not stand at my grave and cry,
I am not there. I did not die.
Our thoughts this evening for you all and your 'free' spirit.
Much love.
Oh moomy. I feel very honoured (though at times I did find it so sad) to virtually "know" hubs in a very small way just through the thoughts and detail imparted by you on this site. I have learnt such a lot from your example. My husband is much older than I am, a similar kind of tough "free spirit" and if the support I am able to give him in time of future need is in any way comparable with what you have given hubs, then that will be a wonderful thing. It is so hard for you and your family, you have so much love, and all I can do is offer my sincere sympathy. You are all such a beautiful family.
Oh Moomy, I'm so sorry. You were so close that i truly think he'll still be near in spirit. It's lovely that the whole family were together, and I'm sure that they'll help you through the next week or two and beyond. It's so difficult and you're probably in shock, but we're all here for you. Xxx
Fly free dear Mr moomy. Love and condolences to you and your wonderful family moomy. Hubs will be part of your life forever, you’ve built so much together. Thinking of you all and sending virtual hugs and love, HFxxxx
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