But not a very patient one!
I've at least got a diagnosis, it's invasive ductal cancer grade 2, but still small, oestrogen receptive but looks as if I might get away with the lymph nodes....and maybe not too much treatment afterwards?
Complex plan, but to begin with, a sentinel node (plus another one or so) removal as day surgery, (a nuclear medicine visit first to get 'the jab' for them to trace) then a gap while that, plus the HER result come back, then because of my previous surgeries for cysts and the fact one resulted in a massive haematoma, therefore scar tissue, I will have a complete mastectomy with an implant. That will be immediately after Easter.
By finding out as much as possible beforehand, the surgeon hopes to prevent too many operations. Obviously I will then need Tamoxifen or similar, so will appreciate helpful advice about that.
But I'd be interested on anyone's 'take' on her plan. I feel reassured that she took time with me, and the BC nurse afterwards spent a good while too.
Hugs xxx
Such a challenge moomy, trying to figure out how he’s feeling when he can’t communicate. But you seem so in tune with him so it’s so lovely that you’re there to ‘interpret’. And great that you’ve had your booster, must have felt a bit ‘normal’ to be going out and about albeit to have your arm jabbed! Very good to have that out of the way as hubs’ care seems to be intensifying. Love and hugs to you all, HFxxx
This evening I had a small meltdown as our two played cello and piano for one lovely gentle piece for him, I really hope he heard it as it was beautiful.
carers were going to massage his pressure areas but he began to cough on turning so they decided to leave that till morning.
hugs xxx
Moomy
My best friend and husband, wonderful father to two amazing children, left us, surrounded by us all, extended family (and even two lovely hospice nurses just outside his bedroom door) today at 12.40.
He is at peace, no more pain. I opened the window to let his spirit fly free (just in case that was needed).
Hugs xxx
Moomy
Moomy
My thoughts are with you all. Even although this was not unexpected for you, it is still a terrible shock to get over such a loss. I was in a similar situation to you just over a year ago. All I can say is be thankful for the lengthy time that you were together and for the love you so obviously shared - not everyone gets that.
I am glad that you have your children there with you, so that you can all give each other strength. Hug the ones you are with. Lots of love to you all and please accept my heart felt condolences.
WallyDug
My sincerest of condolences to you and your family, I did think this may have happened as we had not heard from you today. You have given him the most precious of send offs surrounded by love and the best of care. Take strength from each other and all those years of such loving memories you have, unmeasurable amounts of virtual hugs coming your way moomy ️xxxx
Sending condolences moomy. So sorry to hear this news, although it is not unexpected it is very sad for you all. But as you say, no more pain for your dear husband. I love the image of his spirit flying free through the open window.
So good the family are all together, and I hope you can all draw comfort and strength from each other.
Judith
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