Walking back to Happiness

I’m with you today, LeoLady, no walks for me either, plus I’ve got some singing to do, so a different form of exercise today!

Wet weather hugs xxx

Lots of walking round Bristol for me, swim this morning in hotel pool, needed a long rest this afternoon after a late night partying. Zzzzzzzz xxxxxxx

Hi WhatHappened - and everyone

Thank you for thinking of me - that's kind of you. I have been having a bit of an emotional time lately and not really felt like being on here as my mood has been quite low. I have been thinking of everyone and wondering what you are all up to - will catch up later.

I don't want to bring the vibe of this lovely thread down - enough to say I will be missing a young relative's funeral in a few days as I am travelling to America to see my daughter marry an often- arrested man I have never met. Cancer is to blame for the funeral and I suspect perhaps the wedding, too. My treatment convinced my daughter that life is short and she is now living quite recklessly.

But - I will be in Florida and will try to squeeze a run in and post some pics!!! Hope everyone is having a good time and managing to get out despite the weather!

R

Sending big hugs ronstar... such an emotional time for you. Hope you enjoy the wedding and the Florida weather ... hope it will lift you up Safe travels xx

Hello ronstar, it is so good to hear from you.  You won't bring the vibe down. We are each who we are and how we feel is us - it is easier to come on here when we are in a 'good place' or feeling a upbeat - writing on here when we are down and things don't feel good is hard and takes courage. I do believe just writing it down and getting it out of our heads is a good thing, plus this is where the site the lovely ladies and gents come into their own, hearing different view points can 'sometimes' spark a thought that can change everything.

I am sorry to read of your relatives passing, makes it all the sadder knowing they were young. It seems like you hear about it all the time, every time you talk to someone or listen to the radio or tv you hear it over and over again.  I would think your family will understand you not being at the funeral.

I have a second-cousin, we are not close, messages via. Facebook,  29 and a single parent - she has been given 6 to 12 months!!! My goodness, how do they carry on when hearing this.  In truth, they have to, they have to do what is right for them - to live as best they can for as long as they can. (I don't mean any of this light hearted and I hope it is coming out how I mean it.

You can tell me to mind my own business, just read what I say then ignore what I've said or stick your fingers up at me hahaha..... (oww and it may come across a little mixed up, its all meant in a good way)....

You can't blame your treatment on your daughters actions. You may of helped open her eyes to the life is short - but, really, this is a good thing, I think this is one lesson we learn from this dreaded 'thing'.  Once we can get over the shock, it gives us a kick up the a** so to say, to know what we 'should' do - doing it, well thats another story.  If you were looking in on this situation, you might see it differently as being the Mom.... We all think we know what is best, what is right and no one will truly change our mind until we are either ready to change or we see it in a different way. (then its all the 'I told you so's).  

Your daughter getting married, just the word marriage will of triggered so many emotions and thoughts to you, even how you thought it would be or not be.  One good thing, where its right or wrong - it is getting you to travel to see your daughter and to met boyfriend.  I am finding I want to write so much, I won't, you know how I waffle.  What I'm trying to say is...

Okay your daughter is getting married to what we have in mind is a 'wrong-un' - this is your daughters choice and if she has it wrong, I pray she will see sense and they will go there separate ways.  Maybe he has been arrested no end of times, maybe though, he is the nicest person you will meet, maybe he worships your daughter and treats her like a Princess, maybe once married they will settle to be so happy, maybe if he's not what he should be your daughter will say that is was wrong or its not working and they will go there separate ways ....... what I'm saying is there are so many 'maybes' that once your out there you may see it for how it truly is - don't let it push you and your daughter apart, just go with it - go with the live for today.

Indirectly your daughters actions are already reaping rewards..... her Mom is coming to America to see her, Florida at that.  I believe you will know and fell far better going there and seeing for yourself.

I hope this comes across how I've mean it.

Sending you a massive big squiggy hug and loads of love xxxxx

Ps.  I've not got out and walked for weeks, I've lost my motivation for getting out there, need to give myself a kick up the .... xxx 

ronstar

OK so knowing you are safe is good. Knowing that the poop has hit the fan well.............. unconditional love is what we give our children. And not to have gone would have caused greater angst and maybe rift. Go stick on a big cheery smile. What would be more difficult is not knowing. And if future SIL is a total wazzcock when he meets the feisty future ma in law ........ well he may duck and run

Enjoy and savour the time

Me too WhatHappened this bleeping pericarditis has left me struggling. Made worse by the fact we have cancelled our trip to S Africa for November as insurance companies wanted to hit massively hard (I mean stupid money £880 for me for one trip and one company £1000) or not even insure as more didm't. As today is just one week since diagnosis, then being practical I need to accept it. And yes we checked out all the sites on the thread on here. Feel gutted for Mr Leo

But ........ today a trip to Rickmansworth for a whole day of Indian cookery from scratch. Bloated and amazed, best description. We may never buy a take away again

Hugs to all who did get out and to those who thought about it.

Massive positive hug to you ronstar

Tai Chi tomorrow a lot gentler

Leolady56

Leolady56

Big hugs for you, ronstar

xxx

Big hugs ronstar xxxx

 .... 'Bloated and Amazed' sounds like a wonderful feeling. We'll be waiting to hear how your home Indian cookery turns out.  

I am so sorry you have had to cancel your holiday.  I was going to ask, could you have basic insurance cover for non-existing conditions and not have cover for the BC part, that was until I realised it is South Africa you was thinking of travelling to - maybe this is a little to far not to have full cover.  

I'll have one of your hugs on the basis I did think about going out - but didn't. 

Hope your Tai Chi goes well tomorrow - I am going to 'try' and head of and have an early night - so just in case Nighty Night xxxx

Thanks, everyone - just about to board the plane! WhatHappened - everything you say is true - and thank you for your very thoughtful reply. There is a big gap between how I know I should feel - and how I do actually feel! Still - what will be, will be and I am trying to be thankful that I am here to see this milestone in my daughter's life! 

Happy walking and whatnot everyone!

R