As Northerner said, there are no outsiders. I don't post every day. But I still feel welcomed and a part of this wonderful supportive group. I can go a week without comment. Sometimes I am busy with grandchildren, sometimes I just feel too low to participate and others I just can't get onto the forum!
Oh no, dear seaspirit44, that’s hurtful, so sorry. But I’m reminded of the saying that you choose your friends but are stuck with your family?!? And what a pest your insurance company are being. So very sorry my lovely …...hope it will get sorted soon.
Karen22, yes you’re officially a Fruit Loop of course, having posted now in LondonLass’ inspired thread, it’s always been one of my ‘go to’s’ and I feel I’ve formed friendships here that will stay with me, they’ve certainly helped me cope through my grief after losing hubs last October.
Anna12345 hugs on ex)s news. I'm a believe on our life is pre determined and things happen for a reason but it doesn't make it any easier. How is your daughter feeling about his news? One of my friends described her marriage breakdown over 27 years ago as a bereavement that still affects her now even though she ended it due to his affairs. She resented to a degree being left with two very young children, no support while he went on to have 2 more wives and be like father of the year to his step children.
LondonLass there's room on the blanket for 2. You could even borrow it at night to take to bed!
My exciting day. Cleared from garage jewellery display . Many years ago my hubby had his own business as a goldsmith and had a little shop. He'd forgotten he'd put in lift of garage! We took them to our recycling centre where they have a shop that sells donated items as they have a lot of jewellery. Then as we were out that way went to our Facebook famous Esso petrol station who is selling fuel for £163.9. 10p cheaper than supermarket.
Karen22 you are one of us a true fruit loop and very welcome xx
I haven't been here because Norman my younger guinea pig got ill and has died last Friday. It was awful and I didn't want to tell you. He was treated at vets for respiratory infection and then heart meds were tried. So my darling boy was buried under the rhubarb and Graham the senior one aged 9 plods on alone. He is doing okay actually.
LondonLass did you say you were waiting on tests? Bless you and seaspirit44 waiting for scan results is anxiety inducing xxx
Anna12345 a very difficult situation for you. Disorientating, as you say 6 years ago everything was very different. Let's hope he develops a very bad wind condition, explosive unpredictable wet farts, that she has to smell for the rest of her life.
seaspirit44 I feel for you, my eldest daughter infinitely prefers her Dad to me. She would do the same. In fact she is currently in a sticky situation where she lives and has '99 problems ' So today I text her offering a job where I work. So she could leave all her problems behind her. My son in law (my other daughter so husband) has a vacant house she could live in. My offer was turned down with derision.
Okay I need the advice of fruit loops....
I am going on holiday on Monday to our favourite hotel. Mon-Fri half board. I have booked a huge room with a sea view. I have organised care for Graham but he will be alone except when the carer comes. So I have been thinking about smuggling him into the hotel in his large carry case. He is very old and quiet and I could put a 'Do not disturb' notice on the door. But I realise it is deceiving the hotel staff. But on the other hand he has been recently bereaved. What do you think?
Awww, Snowys Mum, so sorry about Norman! And about your query right at the end; has the hotel said ‘no pets’? If it’s one you know and if they don’t say ‘no pets’ then why not take Graham? You could of course always ask them?
seaspirit44 does your daughter do the same with your ex and not tell him if she's visiting you. If it was me I'd have the conversation with her as she maybe stressed about the situation thinking you'd be hurt by her not visiting you both at the same time so feels she's protecting you. Sometimes children, even as adults, feel they need to tree carefully with adult parents feeling and they are scared of doing wrong thing or simply hate the whole "I have to choose one parent today thing ". If you and ex civil could you invite him to yours next time daughter visits you. You are all adults now and sets a great example to grand children on how extended families can work and they not broken just at a distance. Of course I understand there maybe times that being in same city is impossible. One of my divorced friends endured a 300 return home journey with her ex after dropping their daughter to uni as she didn't want to choose which parent took her and since 9 year old has lived 50/50 with each parent every week. She said it was awful - they are not on good terms and normally only interact about their daughter, at school parent evenings etc. She said it's ok when her daughter there, they even went for meal for her 18th, graduation etc. but the silent car trip which took about 5hrs was a step too far !
Karen22 you are not an outsider . I know many lurkers who read but do t feel ready to join in, I think we've all been there .
I joined a US support group for what I thought was Mothers of children with ocd (my adult daughter had it). Everyone had to introduce themselves and I already stick out like sore thumb with my Welsh accent in pre meeting socialing. Turns out it was a meeting for mothers who suffered with OCD not supported family. Oops I quietly lost internet connection!
Snowys Mum just waiting for my latest CT scan results! Although right now having issues with my Knee! I have osteoarthritis in my knee but lately it’s been locking in place, so I can’t straighten my leg and walking is very painful! I have to walk on tiptoe to my leg stays bent, then slowly it eventually straightens. It’s now happening every night, throughout the night and during the day, randomly!! Don’t suppose anyone else has ever had issues like this?! If so any thoughts on dealing with it? I have a GP appointment on Monday.
Thank you everyone for your support as always. I may have misled some of you, sorry. I did get my
results and theywere fine, but the hospital are charging me for them and the consults. The consultant himself rand me this morning to see what was going on, s they had been hassling him. Felt awful. I always get the letter on a Friday night when everything is closed till Monday!
I had this out with my daughter some years ago. At that time my 2nd husband was awful and they really did not want to see him, but also my ex's wife was very jealous of me and kicked off big time if they sneaked away to see me! I told her that I felt the new wife's feelings were more important than mine and I wasn't having it any longer. She has been very good about it since, which is why it was such a shock this time.I should add that I am now very happily married to my lovely 3rd husband.
Snowys Mum, so sorry about Norman. Are you going to ge ta new companion for Graham in time? Tired Minion I do hope you get your Dad sorted and you can move into your new house soon. Sorry about your continued problems LondonLass..
