AWAKE.........

Snap Northerner…..

Bella LOVES her cool mat! Must admit on a day like today I’m a little jealous! 

Well done to those who have had recent mammograms and remain NED! I’m awaiting scan results, hoping it’ll be Stable Mable for me  

Sending Love and Hugs to all. Hope you are all staying as cool as you can! Xxxx

Had a big upset with my daughter today. They had said they might visit me in Aug when ferrying granddaughter to Yorkshire. I knew it was not a firm arrangement , but found out today they are visiting my ex ( who lives quite near) without a word to me. There is a history of this in the past when they visited him without a word to me. It hurts. I can understand they may not have time to see me as well, but not telling me is out of order. 
Also,I have been messed about again by my health insurance company. They have not paid bills they were liable for and I have once again had hassle from the hospital. It is stressful enough having mammograms and CT scans and waiting for results without all this unnecessary hassle. Add in the high temperature, which means I cannot leave the house, and I am really fed up.

Rant over.

Your Mum looks really happy Lacomtekp. Keep up your excellent care, she is obviously thriving.

Good luck LondonLass re scan results xxxx

Sorry to hear you are having a rough day seaspirit44……

wanted to send 

Families can be ‘funny’ things! Always doing their best not to upset people, but by doing this inevitably someone gets upset!! 

I recently found out some things about my Nieces. Felt guilty for not realising they were having such a hard time! However there was nothing I could do until they were ready to share!! Xxx

Seaspirit44 I can quite see how your daughter visiting your ex and not you would be extremely upsetting. Unfortunately, people do things without thinking how their actions might impact on others. It won't have been a deliberate snub, just a tad thoughtless decision on her part. 

I am sorry you are still in that limbo stage waiting for results. Can you speak to your breast care nurse or the oncologists secretary to try to speed up the results? The nurse at the hospice where I have my complementary therapy kindly rang the hospital for me as I told her yesterday how stressed I felt waiting. Within an hour, I had a phone call from the hospital advising the mammograms were clear. It is worth chasing the results if you can. The hospital told me it was a good thing I had got the nurse to chase for me as they are running so far behind it could have been months before I received a letter from them.

Hi Seaspirit44, I’m one of the “outsiders”, but read all the messages and chip in sometimes.

I just wanted to send you big hugs, and to say I totally understand why you’re upset. We’ve had a similar situation.

I hope you get to see them soon.  

Hi to everyone, hope you’re all keeping cool. Chainsaws going all day here, someone must have a lot of trees being felled! 

Karen xx

Hi Karen22 what do you mean by you are one of the outsiders?

Hi Mag123, I suppose I feel I’m relatively new, and don’t take part in all the chats.  I do read them though, and want to be part of the lovely group. 

I’m a newbie too!! seaspirit44, I totally understand your upset - I would feel very hurt.. As Mag123 said, I think this is not a deliberate snub. Your daughter likely doesn’t know how hurtful these things can be, and I guess she sees you and your ex as two separate people nowadays, so why tell. I don’t know the age of your granddaughter, and your financial circs, but could you meet them at a cafe, or ice cream parlour, and offer a nice treat for everyone? Or if she is little, would she like to feed the ducks somewhere? You will know of a better idea perhaps. You might only see them for an hour, but an hours an hour. And it would be with you. A big hug to you xx Carole

Karen22 no outsiders allowed  only chatterboxes and lds who prefer to listen then chip in when they wish . I’m sure there are also lots of spectators who just like to have quiet read of todays chat ………the biggest bonus of thisite is all are welcome You are part of this group and have been since your first post ( even earlier in you were quietly reading ) 

xx

Thank you everyone,  I know many of you are having a rough time, I think it’s great that we can all be there for each other virtually. 

I have some problems too, not BC or treatment related. I’m just figuring out how to deal with it, I hope to ask for advice from you all soon.