AWAKE.........

Mag123 hope you don’t mind me answering your question with my opinion! You tell work whatever you need to tell work, however just remember this is your health you are talking about. I know you probably feel guilty and feel like you are letting others down BUT you didn’t ask for Cancer Hun! Just remember that. It takes time to work your way through treatment and through the thoughts, feelings and emotions connected to this disease! 
Did you ask your doctor why she felt you weren’t ready to go back? Or do you already know? If you feel well enough for a phased return then you should perhaps discuss that with your GP! However if you feel you aren’t ready and only feel that you ‘should’ be ready, then that’s a different scenario! Be selfish for once, I know that’s hard to do! But you NEED to look after your well-being both physical and emotionally, because no one else will.

Just concentrate on you my lovely, it takes time…..and that can be as long as you need it to be! (((((((BIG HUG))))) Sal xxxx

Let’s hope EVERYONE has a better day than this poor little Cat….

Shouldn’t laugh! But I know we’ve all had days/weeks like this! If this is you right now, just remember Things Will Get Better!  Sal xxxxx

London lass thankyou for your response. It was actually the GP who said she didn't think I was ready for work yet. I got to the surgery 20 mins early and then ended up being almost late for my appointment because I had taken the car key out of the ignition and then couldn't find what I had done with it. So I couldn't lock the car. This is indicative of my behaviour currently and is totally unlike pre diagnosis me. I am worried about work's reaction and if they refuse to pay me I won't be able to pay my mortgage as I have no savings.  I am scared to allow myself the time to get better but I know if I don't take this time and the Cancer comes back, I will regret not having looked after myself. Money is such a terrible evil. I wish I could afford just to turn my back on working and enjoy living, but I can't.

I keep saying this. There should be a laughter option on the reactions. Maybe the moderator doesn't think people with our diagnosis know how to laugh anymore. Laughter truly is the best medicine so thankyou for this LondonLass x

This last was in response to the cat clip and not to your kind advice by the way !!

Hi Mag123, sadly GP’s don’t look at the bigger picture. Their concern is for your health. However not being able to afford your bills will obviously impact on your mental health and stress levels. What do you have written in your contract re sickness and pay? I know it really varies from job to job, some people are very lucky and others get stuck with Statutory Sick Pay, which let’s face it no one can survive on for very long!! 
Sounds like discussing things with your Workplace might be the way to go. If you need to go back for financial reasons, then perhaps discuss with them a plan that suits you, some sort of phased return. I think the more open and honest you can be with them the more helpful/understanding they might be. Especially if they see how willing you are to get back to work! 
Did you have any sort of mortgage insurance? I know my sister had some sort of payment from her insurance when my Brother in Law was diagnosed with Cancer. It certainly helped them financially at the time. 
If you are having issues with money Citizens advice is worth talking too or the Macmillan helpline will probably have someone you can talk too, that will know YOUR rights in this situation! 

Do what’s right for you my lovely and remember you are not alone xxxx

There is something in what you say. I post on this site's Laughter the Best Medicine, It was humour alone which got me through cancer successfully. That and a very good Surgeon of course. Dame Deborah used humour a lot.

The BJ joke sounds intriguing. Perhaps connect as friends and you can send me it!! I do like a good laugh

Hi all.

Ive caught up a few pages back.

Mag123 you’ve had such good advice here. There’s always something to worry about isn’t there. 

Snowys Mum good to see Graham looking chipper after his vets visit. Harrogate is a lovely place. RCN used to have their yearly conference there so have spent ‘a few hours’  in the conference centre :-)

Violetsniff I saw that the Tower was in bloom when online. Visiting Hampton court this week.

moomy great you’re settled in Littlehampton, in your van. How are you finding the van life this time? I like the thought of getting in a van and going off somewhere, although I wouldn’t like to have just a van for transport. It would have to be a very small van lol There must be many sites to choose from. Enjoy.

Lacomtekp looks as though you’re having a lovely break. 

I’ve lots of jobs waiting to be done but get distracted by tennis !! Luckily getting away from it for a few days this week but next week I must get down to getting those jobs done.... no excuse.

I do hope appointments, treatments, reviews are going well for those having them. 

Have as good a day as possible x

Yes admin has emailed me and suggested that forum you have mentioned, as obviously correctly, some people are not in the right place for humour. I feel I have been correctly chastised for my suggestion about the Laughing reaction button.