@LondonLass so well said and such honesty. Perhaps we are all characters in a play, people see what they want to see, and not what's behind the curtain. It may take some time before they can accept that what you are giving is as good as it gets. Perhaps, would you/they consider changing your hours, working the same number of hours over 5 days ? Or perhaps if they are extra busy you might work a few hours extra? That you will try, but due to the medication you are on, you are not able to commit. Don't be too hard on yourself too, things may not improve but that doesn't mean you are not able to enjoy yourself..
I still get asked whether it's all over now, and if I am cancer free. I just say yes.
LondonLass about the work thing, I only work part-time and I'm always being asked to do more, and I do it if I can, to help out but really they would have me there all the time, as there is such a shortage of nurses, so you just have to learn to say no.
If your employers really need full time it would be a good idea to get another part time nanny and then you could share the week and help each other. I would suggest this and just say sweetly that full time for you with your medical issues is out of the question.
Actually is is a big complement to you....they just think you are the same as everyone else and that is a massive accomplishment on your part.
My daughter's in-laws are very raised eyebrows about me working part-time, I get lots of comments about my laziness. Don't know what it is to do with them as I manage quite well on my wage.
That's a good idea Snowys Mum, 2 part time nannies. How rude of your family to say you are lazy! You have it all worked out , very hard to say no sometimes. Xx
Onwards and flatwards (don't do hills) and keep walking if you can!
my old Sister said a few years ago now,that most nurses work part-time,@SnowysMum,and was met with incredulity.Most women these days carry on two jobs as it is,if they work as well as run the household,if their other half doesn’t help...well,I think that,anyway.
Cancer affects us in ways which are not only visible but invisible,to the naked eye.How anyone knows if they haven’t had cancer,is beyond me...The old saying holds true...”walk a mile in my moccasins”
.I prefer the older ladies who I meet with over Knitting ,etc...which I never thought I would hear myself say.They have a wider experience of life and a true perspective,and just,well,kindliness.I am afraid I find some young women really annoy me nowadays...they are just so shrill with “knowing it all,”and basically,knowing nothing.
maybe I am just getting old....
anyway,thats all I will say on that.
As far as your job goes,LondonLass,I think @SnowysMum is right,you should share it with another person.Years ago I did private nursing looking after people in their own homes.I found that the only realistic way to deal with consistency for the client was to share the “job” between two people.And we did,quite successfully.
If your employer looked at the amount of hours you put in,plus being “on call”plus,plus,plus....and you put a price on each hour worked,they would soon see(if they were a reasonable employer),that the pay would be sky-high,as well as being thoroughly unfair for you(and,probably,in the end,your client,due to over-tiredness etc etc.)
(having read this through again,I am aware that I don’t know the hours you do...we lived -in .)
If she really values you,maybe you could have a talk with her outlining your side of it.
I am afraid,as I have found,that private work can be full of pitfalls,and I missed the fairness of intitutions like the NHS where there was sick pay,holiday pay...and so on.
Arrr I was going to bed, just wanted to add my two pennies worth.
I think what Snowys Mum suggested is really good - for a couple of reasons:-
It would give them variety,
Any days you couldn't make work or needed time off, by having two workers, they would be able to have cover - a person that they know and the same would go if the other worker wasn't able to be in, then you might be able to cover for them too.
You know how you feel and if you're not up to it, then I think this would be a good suggestion, even saying, 'if' things improve then you could rethink, for time being having an additional worker would seem to be the best option.
Try not to stress over this (far easy for me to say - just deep breath and blurt it out).
Definitely going to bed now - Love to all - Nighty Night xxxxxx
I'm hoping this makes sense - only my mind says one thing and my fingers type whatever they like x
