AWAKE.........

Hi London Lass seems you have a lot on at the moment just to say I'm thinking of you. My daughter first day back at high school after seven months at home due to anxiety. A big day for us both its emotional stepping into my old life. Jo hope you're a bit better now. Love to all x

Hope your daughter gets on okay. Love to you too xxx

Thanks All, I am finally home and feeling quite normal again! Sal, my son has his wisdom teeth out on Friday too! Although he ignored the pain and it is now infected! He is an idiot! He wants me to go and see him and you will all tell me off for this, but I have not told him yet! He doesn't live close by and is really antisocial when it comes to family, just working all the time. He is always so busy and I only see him once every few months myself, so I thought maybe I could spare him this. Now he has suggested we catch up, I am going to have to spill the beans! He is quite strange though, possibly undiagnosed autistic, so I am really unsure how he will take the news. He can be from one extreme to the other and could be devastated or insultingly blase about it. I can't even ask for ideas from you all as without knowing him..... Wish me luck as he wants to see me Friday. Should I at least wait until he has finished his dentist work? Yes, maybe.

Jo I think that must count as someone, somewhere is trying to tell you something!! I think there are times when you can avoid telling the ones we love about a Cancer diagnosis, if the family member has their own health issues, or is very old or senile, or if they live in another country and you have no contact with them! 

BUT 

I think you should of told your son, my opinion of course, because I would question how would you feel if your son was going through Cancer and he kept it from you? I'm not saying this to upset you and feel free to tell me to mind my own business. I just believe that a mother and son relationship should be as open as possible and it does sound that you are close to your son........look who he asked to see when he was going through this tooth removal!! I think that speaks volumes! I think he will understand why you didn't but I also think he will appreciate being told, if he understands as I know autism can cause some strange responses! 

Whatever happens I wish you all the best and hope your son gets on okay xxxx

Hi Sal, I am thinking about it seriously. He is very high functioning, a little too focussed on things etc, but very intelligent. I am going to think about this properly tomorrow, but I am so unsure as it coud knock him off course completely and he is doing so well. On the other hand he could just accept it and not be too bothered. It is difficult to know how he will react until it is too late. My husband thinks that maybe I am right but it is so hard to know how it will affect him. Xxx

Hi Jo,  I understand exactly how you feel about your son. My daughter is autistic (allbeit younger than your son) high functioning, obsessive etc.  I had to tell my daughter and she seems to have taken it in her stride autistic people seem to be very good at blocking certain things whilst obsessing over other things.  You know your son and whatever you decide to do will be the right thing.  

Ive still not told my mum!

Glad to see youre feeling better

Karen xx

Just to share, I told my autistic son who is 15, I'm not sure how much he understands but I was overwhelmed by his attitude - don't ever tell me they don't have empathy! He was the only one of 3 males in the house who asked me if I needed any help or anything doing or was I ok - he touched my heart with his attitude - they are all different (he is also high functioning) but they never fail to surprise and amaze us  ((hugs)) I found telling my sons the hardest part of the journey by far xx

Hi Londonlass just wanted to send lots of love and best wishes for the tooth op - you are braver than me as I'm due to have a cracked root out as the crown keeps falling out but have completely bottled out, just don't want to be pulled about at the moment!! Be thinking of you with love and big hugs xx Frances xx

Hi LL.  I feel your anxiety for Thursday - for me having a boob off was much less stressful than anything to do with my teeth.  Youve been through enough as it is though, will they not consider conscious sedation?  It really is amazing for those of us who are terrified of dentists.

Thinking of you

Karen xx

Thanks, have to admit teeth issues worry me more than anything else! But let's put a positive spin on things, what's the worst that can happen............

Me on Thursday afternoon???? Maybe!! Xxxx