Hi everyone.
thank you for everyone on here who posts. It’s so informative to read. I am 39 years old and have recently been diagnosed with bladder cancer. No one seems to know why I have it at this age. At every appointment everyone tells me how young I am which at first was a nice ego boost but now seems to be raising questions in my mind. I recently had a TURBT and have my follow up histology/consultant appointment next week.
I wanted to know if there was anyone around my age range who has this. Perhaps we could chat? I Love chatting to people from any age group but I am interested to see if there are many other people in their 30s or 40s with this type of cancer?
Is there anyone who was first diagnosed this at a younger age? I am worried I will have a lifetime of reoccurrences? Is my life expectancy shorter now?
My husband and I have just cancelled our trip to New York for my 40th next year and we can no longer buy the house we had offered on as I am not mortgageable now. So feeling a bit low. However, I know that I am lucky to have good healthcare and for this to have been caught early, hopefully. Any advice would be gratefully appreciated now. Thanks 
Hi Denby. Thank for the reply. Feels nice just to speak to other people. I haven’t told many people yet. Figured I’d wait til I have my results next week. I will ask my consultant about the letter and maybe my mortgage advisor too, hadn’t thought of that. But then perhaps it would be bad timing to move during treatment anyway as it was moving 180 miles away. I am optimistic that one day I will look back and the house and holiday will just be a nuisance and a distant memory
Hello thesunalwaysshine
Thanks for the tips. The mortgage thing was because of the life insurance that had to go with it. And cos of the timing of the diagnosis we now won’t be able to move in time for the school year etc. so maybe it just has to wait a little I guess. I might still get some advice so we are prepared for when we do look to move tho. You are right. It does feel like life has to pause for a bit. At the least til next week. If I join that Facebook group. Can my other friends on fb see that I have joined it do you know?
Hi Lili39 and a welcome from me too. As you know, bladder cancer was once regarded as an older person's disease, especially in men. Over the last few years we have seen more younger people being diagnosed. Our younger members tend to leave the group when their treatment is over. They don't stick around and move on with their lives. Unless diagnosed at a very late stage, bladder cancer is not known to lessen life expectancy. As regards a mortgage, can I suggest you call the free Macmillan helpline on 0808 808 0000 (8-8 pm). They have experts on hand who will be able to advise. The results of your biopsies will determine the next step and when you get your results and have an idea of the full picture, it tends to help when talking to friends and family. I hope all goes well. Best wishes.
