Hi
I'm feeling a bit low today my husband has bladder cancer which has spread to lymph nodes in his groin also he now has a lump in one testicle, he is suffering a lot from fatigue and it seems to just suddenly hit him, yesterday was quite bad and he spent most of the day in bed. I try to suggest things but dont push but recently hes had considerable pain his groin and testicle but when I suggest painkillers hes very reluctant. We have both been very positive but recently he keeps saying "I'm not sure I'm beating this cancer" which is hard to respond to. I have said that he needs to speak to his consultant but these are always telephone consultations while im.at work anyway I thought i would ask how others deal with their other halves as I always seem to be in the wrong for suggesting anything. I think the reluctance for painkillers comes from when his dad had cancer and it made him like a zombie thanks
