Horrible Wednesday

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Hi all,

This is only my second post here, so bare with me…

Today we got the general results of my Mums diagnosis. Sadly, not the news we were hoping for. Her cancer is metastasised.. We’re looking at Bladder & Lung cancer. We’ve been told the chemo she receives will not cure, simply buy more time. To say I’m devastated is an understatement.

I feel a little lost for words and unsure how to comfort her at this moment in time. I’m trying to keep things light hearted with some humour thrown in, but.. Well, I don’t know.

Any advice for the following weeks/months to come would be appreciated as our family navigate this scary journey

Take care x

rily 5 days ago

Hi Green_Eyed_Weirdness4836b5 .Sorry to hear the news about your Mum. It must be a difficult time for your family. Hopefully the treatment may give her some relief. I never try to look too far ahead and always try and take things one step at a time. Best wishes.

Best wishes to All, rily.

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Simon C25 5 days ago

So sorry to hear your news. It can't be easy all I can say is make the most of whatever time you have together and make it count.

Again I'm so sorry it's not better news your mum has gotten. Everyone's journeys are somewhat similar yet also very different.

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Teasswill 5 days ago

I'm afraid I have no wise words, but offer my sympathy. I know how hard it is to lose your Mum. Hopefully the treatment will keep her as well as possible for as long as possible. You may well find that she is more philosophical about it than you are, but aware that it will be difficult for you. Worth talking about practical issues - what she wants to do and so on - take your lead from her. Wishing you all much strength to cope in the time ahead.

Denby 4 days ago

Hi, and sorry too about the news you have had.

Just two thoughts to add to the useful ones from others.

Check out your local Carers' Association, they vary from county/city place to place in what and how much they offer but if you don't ask you won't know.

Have a look at the other forums that Macmillan offer, there may be some help in ones dedicated to people in a terminal situation, and call the helpline for any advice you need. 0808 808 00 00 open seven day 8am to 8pm

Best, Denby

Latestart 4 days ago in reply to Denby

I'm not sure whether they offer support in these cases .but there's also the Maggies centres around the country. Plus the best people may be your local hospice as they take people in for respite care as well as end if life. They will have the most experience in dealing with patients like your mother and year families.

Having also been in your position long ago in the past, before these sorts of places existed I think I would say - keep talking and try to spend as much time in the present (or even talking about the past). Many people wish they had asked their parents what their younger lives were like and this may be interesting for you all.

Be guided by your mother on what she wants to do and talk about and try to enjoy her remaining time as much as possible.

All the best,

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