Bladder Cancer

Hello Coton and welcome to the group although sorry to hear your husband has had a cancer diagnosis. Firstly, be aware that bladder cancer can be treated successfully. The early days of uncertainty and not knowing can be the worst. We know how scary it may seem but once a treatment plan is in place there is something positive to focus on. I always found it was better to keep the family in the loop. Breaking the new can be hard but you can do it without going in to too much detail. Do you know what your husband has had done so far to lead to a diagnosis ? Best wishes.

Hi Coton and welcome to the group. You're in the right place. Personally I would suggest focussing on the fact that there are many treatments and much monitoring on offer, whatever type and stage your husband's cancer turns out to be. Macmillan offer a sensible information booklet, which I believe you can read online but also we got a paper copy posted out free.

Stay away from 'Dr Google', it's nearly always a bad idea to get sucked into looking at that.

It's also a really common cancer though you wouldn't think it from the absence of it in the news.

I sit on this forum because my husband had bc back in 2018, he's not a forum-y person but had very good treatment and now just has 6 monthly checks. But some aspects of his 'journey' are useful to people going through it now.

So do some breathing exercise to control anxiety, remember you can call macmillan on the phone 8am to 8pm, t days a week.

Best to you both, 

Denby

bad typing, seven days a week...

Dear Denby Hope you got my reply - I don't know what I'm doing today!

Good morning Coton and welcome. Diagnosis is a bit of a shock but as you find out more about a treatment plan so the anxiety diminishes. I’m sure your son will respond well to being given this information. Remember also that medical information is a personal thing and you don’t have to tell anyone unless you choose. Everybody on this forum has been in the position of dealing with a similar situation. So as Denby says , deep breathing and a positive attitude, best wishes, John.

John  Thank you so much for your reply. He looks so fit and healthy. I am trying to stay positive but at the moment keep breaking into tears. I feel  my world has fallen apart.

WallyB     Sorry I got your name wrong.

Denby  I don't think you got my first reply. Thank you so much for your comforting words. I;ll try the breathing exercises.

You got my name right . Looking fit and well is ok , since my start on this journey I’ve had no ailments or events that even suggest the bc exists . Tears are a good thing, they help release tension and show how much you care.

Hi Coton,Sorry to hear about your husband’s diagnosis.It’s all a bit of a shock to start with but most feel better once treatment begins.This is a good place for support and advice and we are all here to help.Best wishes Jane