Anal cancer

Hi Dobey,

Sorry to hear of your loss and what you've been through.... how are you doing physically now? I'm guessing you are post treatment? Xx

Hi JenW,    thanks for your reply, I'm on chemo again, but I'm really doing well with it, since starting chemo 2 yrs ago I've been lucky I've had no real side effects apart from being tired and needing a couple of blood transfusions,  I can't help but think of others who have it much worse and feel for them. I'm just so thankful for the loving support I have from my family and friends, Xx

Hi Dobey,

It  sounds like you have had a very tough time over recent years and I’m sorry about your husband. I’m also sorry that you are having to go through chemo again. 
You sound very positive in your outlook which is wonderful given all your challenges and you are so right about appreciating lovely family and friends. 

Wishing you well with the chemo xx

Hi Dobey,

I was inspired by your post, thank you for sharing it. So sorry about the loss of your partner, You have been amazing to come through everything that has been thrown at you.

My partner was diagnosed with Stage 4 squamous cell carcinoma before Christmas. The way we decided to tackle things as a team was that I do all the researching including looking on this wonderful site and relaying back all the positive stories like yours and she prefers to focus totally on trying to be as healthy as she can, eating, exercise etc

Like you, she is responding to chemo well so we just try to take each day as it comes. She does get tired the same as you report - that seems to almost be a given doesn't it? We are wondering what will happen when she finishes the six cycles she is on, nobody has said much about that.

Anyway, just wanted to wish you all the very best. You are so right about every emotion. Every day we find is a bit of a rollercoaster!

Every best wish for the future 

Hello Dobey

I am in awe of your positivity in spite of everything that life has thrown at you!  I am so sorry that you lost your partner and then to face your diagnosis but I am glad that you have a really good support network around you to help you through the difficult times.  And grandchildren are the best, too, aren't they?

A big welcome to the forum, here you will find another lovely bunch of virtual supportive friends too.

Irene xx

That's a long time you've had to be dealing with this, but I'm glad you are coping well and have a good support network :) I hope things continue to go well for you! Xx

Hi Dobey ,

Firstly I’m so sorry to hear of the loss of your partner, I lost my husband at a very similar age to you, not cancer related but I completely understand how traumatic that loss can be & like you my children have kept me going. I also completely agree with what you’re saying about allowing yourself to feel your emotions, if you deal with them as & when they arise then you can pull up your big girl/boy pants & get on with things can’t you? 

It's great to hear that you’re doing well on chemotherapy & you’re not suffering too many side effects. 

Thank you so much for this positive post despite everything you’ve had to deal with. 

Nicola