Im so angry at this whole situation.
I know its not your fault that you got cancer, I know youre in pain, I know it hurts when you eat,
But none of it is my fault either. Im doing my best to look after you and our kids, and somewhere amongst it all,Im trying to look after myself too.
Youre not the only one that cancer affects. It might be in your body, but its not just your cancer.
I wish I could make it all disappear for you. I wish I could make you better.
I wish you would go and talk to someone rather than just letting it all build up and having a go at me.
Hello AMarg
I can see where you are here - in a situation that is unexpected and you can't see a way out of it and it's very possible your partner isn't aware of the way they are behaving to you.
Yes, you are doing right to look after yourself and the kids first - you must make this a priority. Sadly some people think they can manage without any help and are reluctant to accept they need help.
Have you thought about:
* Contacting our Support Line on 0808 808 00 00 (8am to 8pm 7 days a week) - it's a free call and they will be able to help you - they are there for anyone affected by cancer - not just those with a diagnosis!
* Contacting your partner's cancer care team to let them know how they are and is there anything they can help with to improve the situation - a change in medication - additional treatment etc.
* If the children are school age have you thought about contacting their school - letting them know the situation and they may well be in a situation to provided extra help for the children.
Whatever you do - please do look after yourself and the children - if it helps just talking about the situation, there's always someone here to listen. Do keep in touch and do let us know how you get on.
Best wishes - Brian.
Macmillan Support Line - 0808 808 00 00, 7 days a week between 8am-8pm
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