Life feels heavy right now

This is so hard. So much for you.  I have no wise words somehow or other you will find your way through this. You’ve already shown you can survive really hard things. My thoughts are with you and your husband. Xx

Thank you for the reply I know i will get my husband and my family through its just who gets me through it. Im so angry upset my heart hurts. 

Hi metallicgirl

Receiving this news is just so painful, and especially so soon after losing your mum

I remember that news day well, like being hit by an express train ( my husband died 6 months ago).

All I can say is somehow you muddle through. My advice would be call upon each and every tiny bit of support offered. Get referred into hospice if there is one, ours were wonderful, and still support me. Make sure the GP knows you are a carer and find out about carer groups nearby. These will sustain you in the darkest of days, as will friends or family. Take time off work if you are still working.

He should get PiP or similar as he isnt old enough for attebdance allowance, but Macmillan will go through any benefits etc if needed.

Spend whatever time you have together dojng things he liked. My husband never really had a bucket list, we went out when he was well enough and this got less and less. We sorted out all the finances, passwords etc, made the bank accounts joint so it was easier for me. His last 2 minrhs wre lived in our living room so we just watched rubbish tv together and chatted about nothing realky.

Come here to chat. You are not alone here and people here understand.

X

Thankyou for your reply im so sorry for the loss of your husband. All the advice given will help me some things I already have sorted but there is some yet to do. Strength really does come within. Feels very overwhelming at the moment as its all fresh but im sure like yourself I can get through this. We also like day time rubbish lol thats what we will be doing when we cant get out and about. I appreciate you sharing your story with me Thankyou x

Thank you your reply is appreciated 

Thankyou and you are welcome. I wish id come here in those dark days because people really dont get it if theyve not been there. Here, we get it, our circumstances will all be different but all facing that reailty that we are slowly ( or quickly) losing the one we love and its hartbreaking but nothing can stop it. The day we were told there was no more treatment was the day hope died.