My Dads cancer is terminal

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Hi all, about 3hrs ago my parents told me my Dad has approx 3months without treatment or up to 12months with treatment to live. This is has happened so fast, he only went to the doctors 4 weeks ago with a nack ache. Im so close to my dad, he is my hero. I dont know what ill do without him. I feel guilty feeling this sad whilst he is the one with the diagnosis. He was more concerned about me when he told me than himself. Why does this happen to good people. 

I want to be there to support my parents but also work and have a 2 Autistic children to support, I feel like I need to split on half. I just want to be with me Dad as much as I can and be there for my mum also. 

  • I get it. My dad tries so hard to be "grandad"  when I take my girls to visit. He really doesn't want them looking at him differently. My Dad has now lost his hair through chemo and I have to show them photos before seeing him so can process. They know he is poorly but I dont think they would grasp the understanding of his prognosis. Even on here I struggle with saying that he doesn't have long or dying. He chose chemo prolong life but thay is 3-12month with chemo. Its not long enough.

    How is your dad doing ?  What is he like...... I mean prior to cancer. Obviously you dont have to answer. Just thought it would be nice for you to share a little about him that makes you smile.

  • Good morning lovely, 

    ahhhh my dad is the greatest, after diagnosis he has become depressed and feels a lot of guilt for leaving mum behind he worries about her financially and how she will cope in herself. I’ve told him we will looks after mum for him and even speaking those words is hard for me.
    dad has always been a grumpy gus and it really changed when my son was born he couldn’t contain his excitement and he is just the best grandad ever. His health has not always been great as he suffers from varicose veins in his legs which are smashed so has limited his walked and he is in pain, that’s why dad cannot have chemo as it wouldn’t be able to go around his body and also he is not fit enough so he has been told to go home and live the rest of his life the best he can. Dad cannot swallow any solid foods now as the cancer had minimised the 

    oesophagus so he is taking ensure drinks for medication as well as food, dad is loosing weight so we are trying to get as many calories into him as we can, fortunately nothing is blocking his windpipe so he is able to breathe fine. 
    we have no prognosis for dad yet as there are no symptoms apart from the mass in throat so I’m hoping for the longest time x

    Sending you lots of love xx