Hi all, just looking for a little advice my dad has recently been diagnosed with squamous cell skin cancer and has a very large tumour growing on his stomach which also lies over a large hernia, he had a serious stroke 10 years ago which has left him disabled and took his speech, the surgeons have just told us they cannot operate due to his overall health they said he won’t survive the surgery and that there is no treatment available for him just palliative care, Just over a year ago we suddenly lost my mum who was his carer, I have been told he has only months to live and I don’t know if I should tell him or not, because of his disability he is unable to do a lot and spends his days mostly in front of the TV, with so much time on his hands I’m worried this news will seriously effect his mental health along with still grieving my mum, but I also agree he has the right to know, he lives with live in carers who have advised me as he lives at home & not in a hospital setting they need to know if he wishes to have a DNR in place has anyone been in a situation like this & can offer any advice
