Mum has terminal cancer

Hello, I too have just found out my mam has terminal cancer. My heart absolutely goes out to you and I can relate so much. My mam and I are so close. I have no words of comfort as I’m on the same terrifying journey as you. However, possibly something can be gained by sharing experiences and connecting with others. 

All I know is I’m going to have to really pay attention to my own self care to enable me to be there for her. I’m drawing in my internal and external resources to be my scaffolding. 

its such a earth shattering thing to feel. I hope you can be kind to yourself with whatever comes up. X

Thank you so much!

I’m so sorry you’re in the same situation, sending all my love and support to you. 

Definitely, this is never something you think you need to prepare for and it’s awful. I’m here if you need any support/someone to talk to throughout our journeys. 

I agree with the self care part and will try my best too xx

The same goes for you, perhaps we can continue to share our journey. 

thank you. Wishing you all the support. X

Hi. I feel the same. My mum just diagnosed and I just can’t seem to pull myself together when I’m on my own. Just trying to front it out at work and in front of mum dad and my own family. I think reaching out and talking to people is a really positive step x

I’m so sorry to hear that! I completely get that as I feel the same, it seems easier to put on a front when you’re with people but when you’re by yourself it all comes out. Try and make sure you don’t bottle anything up though, as that can make it worse. 

Sending you love and support! X

Thank you. You are totally right about putting on a mask. Thankyou for sharing x

My mum was told  3 weeks to 6 months in July. She is deteriorating and it hard. I lost my dad in December from stomach cancer. Do you have contact with a hospice they have been great through our it all.

Hi all

My mum is also palliative and her prognosis is unclear which I'm finding really difficult. Every day seems to be different emotionally.

I found reaching out to my GP has been very helpful and speaking to the MacMillan support line as they've helped point me in the right direction of who to ask for support for both my mum and myself. 

Telling work was difficult but they have been really supportive and I wouldn't know what I'd be doing now if I hadn't told them, as it allows them to be more understanding. Also get the palliative care team involved asap as they're absolute angels and can help connect different healthcare members to help your mum too. 

Sending hugs 

I’m so sorry to hear that, I can only imagine what you’re feeling, especially after losing your dad too!

We have been speaking to loros and they have been great. 

We are all here in the community if you need a chat, support etc! 

Hi!

That must be so difficult not knowing what her prognosis is, my heart goes out to you.

I’m so glad your work have been supportive, as that’s one less thing you need to worry about.

Thank you so much for sharing re your GP, the helpline and palliative team. We do have a palliative lady we’re in touch with and she is amazing! 

Sending hugs to you too x