A close relative is currently in hospital they have terminal cancer. We have been told they hasn’t got long left, the thing is they are extremely agitated, verbally abusive and paranoid since being there and its so unlike them. They thinks that people are trying to kill them (including us) and we want them to be in this situation, making all sorts of non sensical stories and they are also sometimes being disruptive on the ward, this is really unlike then and we are obviously very distressed by this. My question is, is there anything that can be done or is this what the last couple of weeks or days will be like? What are peoples experience of this kind of agitation/paranoia at end of life? Thank you
Hi Loco1, and a warm welcome to the forum, though I'm so sorry you have to be here, I am sorry, though I have experienced a couple of times, terminal patients with similar behaviour and moods, as I'm not a professional and know very little about your relative it would be wrong of me to to give a diagnosis, the 2 times I experienced it were very similar, and as 1 was my brother,I hope I'm ok sharing his experience, but please remember his may not be the same as your friends. My brother began to change very close to the end, we thought it was the meds, until a Dr said it was terminal restlessness, and told us it wasn't treatable, and that increasing his meds was the best way forward, he did arrange for my brother to have some tests, as an undiagnosed infection or injury could exacerbate the condition, but none was found, so they increased the medication, we lost him a week later.
Eddie
Thank you for your experience they’re saying it’s the steroids but they’ve reduced the dose and a week on their still extremely agitated and paranoid we have been told they have 4 weeks maximum. Very sad when it’s like this and sorry you experienced this and thank you for your reply xx
Hi Loco1, I'm sorry I couldn't help more, but please remember it's a very emotional time for someone to cope with emotionally near the end, and though the medication is helpful, it too can affect you, so don't take anything personally, and by being with your friend, talking to them, talking about the times you've shared and your feelings for them will help them
Eddie
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