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Hi Sje So sorry to hear this dreadful news and I know how devastating it can be being told something is non cancerous or treatable only to find out it's the opposite. I think the best thing you can do is talk to someone and this will really help you and your Dad . All the Best Minmax 

Hi, sorry you’re going through this. I recently lost my dad to cancer and I am a similar age to you…from his diagnosis to the end has been a blur in our worst times but we have also had some of our best times during this making memories that we knew were so precious. Not everyone is the same but I reckon your dad would want you to start planning and know you’ll be ok and continue your life. It’s hard, it’s awful for you to carry on but it might give your dad some happiness in all of this that you have this to look forward to. My dad wouldn’t talk about his cancer much and often he’d leave appointments for us to continue as he couldn’t face it, he wanted a goal (such as my brothers wedding and a few short breaks away) to get to and not think about what was coming in the long run, taking each day at a time. This was hard going but seemed to work. No matter who else you know or talk to who has gone through it no one will completely understand due to different relationships with those people and everyone deals with these things different. If you can talk to your dad about how you’re finding it hard to plan given the circumstances then do as I’m sure that’ll be a weight of your mind and his. Take care of yourself. 

Sorry  to hear this.

You might find your dad wants you to live a normal life  so he can see you happy and settled .as difficult as  it might be talk to him about it . A friend of mine  died a couple of years ago her daughter  brought her wedding  forward  so her mum could be part of her special day.