Struggling

Hi there, I am going through this just now and also struggling. My partner has been through hell the last 3 years and it’s taken its toll on my mental health as well as his. 
I asked my doctor for a sick line for anxiety. I’ve been off work 6 months now. We’re approaching my partners final phase now and it’s getting tougher. Hope you have a good support from family and friends. I have a good friend who has recently lost a close family member and we try to support each other.

Try to look after yourself as best you can. I’ve been doing breathing exercises and eating small amounts of healthier meals. Wish you the strength to cope. 

I can understand your shock.  Yes its hard. My husband had a stage 3 parotid cancer.  You need to just help him do what he can.   Sometimes one has to let reatment or not go. When nothing can be done  we need to be there for the person.  You can nly suopport your partner in what is happening. You being there would not have helped. He had a friend with medical knowledge there so  anything needed to be asked would have been done

Hi Driftwood,

sorry for the slow reply and thank you for your supportive message. I am sorry you are going through this too. I have supportive people around me but it’s still so hard. I am constantly emotional and I am trying to not cry when I am with him but I just can’t stop myself. I hope you are ok. xx

Hi Butterfly, no need to apologise. It’s a stressful time for you. Don’t be hard on yourself for crying. I cry a lot. The tears release some pain. I always say sorry for crying in front of my partner and he reassures me he’d be exactly the same.Its such a lonely and frightening time for you both.

I’m still processing the fact that this is probably in his final few weeks. I fear I will lose a big part of myself when he leaves but also grateful I got to feel so unconditionally loved by him. Take of yourself. I’m here if you need a chat.