Hello,
So, firstly I hopefully aim to gain an understanding of what it's like living with someone with the above conditions.
I work full time as a trainee nurse on a bowel cancer ward, as well as caring for my elderly grandmother who has the above cancers.
Now, after caring for my grandad and my auntie when I was 16 and 17 who both sadly passed, my grandmother now is on palliative care. Due to being the only female, she relies on me an awful lot, which I do not mind at all, but I am exhausted, I work full time, I'm a trainee nurse ontop of it, I have a partner who god bless him, has been so supportive, but when someone hasn't been involved with an individual who is dying from an illness is really difficult.
My granny, has been in hospital for 7 days due to having a pulmonary embolism ( blood clot on her lung ) after arguing with the first Dr that she doesn't have a chest infection.
Since coming out, I went away selfishly for my birthday as I really needed a break, not that it was much of a break as I was really quite poorly. Me and my dad co share ( well try to) responsibilities. This is proving difficult as granny has now started to get pure nasty vocally, I understand that it is the cancer talking, but it doesn't make it any easier.
She still has full capacity and refuses any extra help from any outside professionals.
She has been prescribed some " relaxant" medication, but refuses to take it.
I am so worried that she is going to be nasty like my grandad and the effect it will have on my dad. I'm kind of the rock in the family, the one everyone goes to, but im struggling and feel so alone through this. People say at 27 you shouldn't deal with this , but granny is my world and there's nothing I wouldn't do for her. But this is utterly exhausting me and I just am at such a loss on where to turn for help and support.
But this anger, and getting such a vicious tongue and temper is breaking apart the family as I am peace keeper normally... but even I do not know where or how to deal with this one despite my background of challenging behaviours in secure units, working in NHS, its so weird it being family and quite upsetting st times.
Any group, or any suggestions would be greatly appreciated after my verbal diarrhoea!
Thank you
Hi jassy123
It sounds like you're going through an incredibly difficult time at the moment.
I'm not a member of this forum but noticed that your post hadn't had any replies yet. Responding to you will 'bump' it back to the top of the discussion list again. Hopefully forum members will come forward to share their own experiences with you.
If you haven't already, you could phone the Macmillan Support Line on 0808 808 000 and chat through things with them. They are available every day of the week from 8am to 8pm.
Sending virtual ((hugs))
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