Dark days

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Hello

New to the group and feel like I'm a little late, my grandad has had pancreatic cancer since last September. We were waiting.for the different treatments some he could t have made then he started chemo which has now stopped due to low blood pressure and low blood sugar. Now everything is spiraling he's now in hospital after a fall and we have been told he will.never go home because he can't care for himself we were given a 6 month left diagnosis. My sister visited today and she has said with how I'll he is and with how week he is we will be lucky if he sees another week I am currently so lost and afraid I don't know what to do.

  • Hi  

    Sorry to hear about your grandad seeing someone we love in hospital is always difficult and of course the fall will have made things more difficult too.

    Some years ago my mum had a fall and it seemed like she would never get out of hospital ended up there for six months in total but in the end she did come out. Her cancer was only finally diagnosed after she died.

    With both my dad and my wife's dad we had to make the decision to find a care home to help us look after them, I guess that may well be a discussion your family will be having at the hospital. 

    <<hugs>>

    Steve

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  • Hi Steve my grandad was ment to be going to a hospice, they have now changed their minds head 2 choices go home and be bed bound or go to a care home, he has chosen the care home as even he has said it's better for him. He is skin and bones and has no muscle left and he is hardly eating because in his words the food tastes like cardboard or sawdust so he doesn't see the point, I am sad because he used to be so energetic and was always doing things he loved and now he has no energy to even move himself up the bed. We know he's not got all that long left and I'm trying to prepare myself but I'm going to be heartbroken when he is gone even though I know he won't be in any more pain or suffering. Life sucks right now