I just wanted to say hello as I've just joined these forums today. My (same sex) partner age 59 was diagnosed with metastatic pancreatic cancer early October. Its a massive thing to come to terms with. She had one doses of chemo in December, but reacted badly and ended up in hospital for over a week. But on discharge I think the chemo must have worked a little as she was in less pain for about 10 days, and her hair started to fall out. Over Christmas the pain returned, she's not been very comfortable past week. She has an appt with oncologist tomorrow so we've been holding out until then (as we thought it would be hard to get hold of any support over Christmas anyway, even if we knew who to ask ). If her bloods are OK she's hoping to start chemo again on Friday. She's feeling like she wants some counselling to help her process whats happening and how to talk to people about it. Like when friends want to visit, she sometimes tells them not to come if she's not feeling very well, as she's afraid they'll get fed up of her if she can't be cheerful. Its tough. Thanks for listening
