My dear dad xxx

Hi Qasim 

I'm sorry to read that your dad is poorly and is having end of life care. It is hard to deal with anyway but your health anxiety will be magnifying everything. 

I think the things to focus on, are your dad and your family. Is your dad comfortable, not in any pain? How is your mum doing, can you do anything to help and take any strain off her? I have cancer myself and find it's not words I remember, it's actions and thoughtful assistance. The little things that add up to big things.

Your dad is right, love life, be happy and make the most of yourself and your family as we are all only here for a brief time. It may help to write things down, to reflect and to get the thoughts on the page. I use a gratitude diary and find this helps me, yes I've got cancer but I have a lot to be thankful for. I hope my reply helps in some way and I sincerely hope that your dad's last days are peaceful. Best regards to you and your family.

A x

Thanks so much for the reply sistermoon  Yes my dad is not in any pain and smiles and talks about his old days in cinema to me and also my mum is being strong and comfortable and they dearly love eachother  I’m going down on 17th and shopping her for food etc she says both are excited to see me I’m nervous and anxious but I will see them as I’m their son and can’t let him or myself down for the hearing of you having cancer my thoughts and prayers are with you xx 

Hi Qasim 

Thank you for your reply. Your mum and dad sound lovely, they will be pleased to see you. To look after someone in their last days is a privilege and it may help in some way with your health anxiety. I wish you well. Thank you.

A x