bowel and ophageagages cancer

hello not feeling good husband got terminal cancer bowel and ophageaes with all the chemo 4 lots of it no one looked a his bowel went in for op hernia found mass when they'd and the mass s on bowel  removed what they could and hernia just stich back up then told a few days later on his OWN i raced there then they told me nothing they can do drugs and pain relief is all depending how far or quick it can be slowed the fact their saying put a stent in so he can eat he does feel as why !! bother if going to die 6- 1 year i rather go quicker yes i know that usually but we only just stating with news every time i leave in hospital so other visit from clinics company's ie out reach  VICKER husband not religious so was more angry when i got there i just want to go away but i know it want  when all i see is my life  sleep i cannot  do he goes 6-1 year was given more or less time i     just keep crying and so tired but i just cant sleep he just retired me not yet 4 years yet so am working feel made pressure to return as money tight AND I MEAN TIGHT WE had no help with bills Attal we still got 1 son at home 19yrs he in such pain with news he says all my brothers saw dad grow up i not get to see when turns 21 their 45 he was a very late child . with all this going on HOW ARE YOU SUPOSE TO SLEEP !! 

all you get told ring mc million nurse i too upset to even discuss my life with any one  let alone cancer people thats like hate people i know im in shock but  how do we go on the word 1 day at time does not quite work sorry needed to vent some of my stress of even if noone hears 

Hi onos 

I am sorry to read that you are struggling with all that is happening in your household. It is very difficult to cope with all this when you are also still working to pay the bills. I realise that finding time to find support will be difficult. I also realise that you may think it is dismissive when people are saying for you to ring your husband's macmillan nurse. I can assure you that is not the case, your Macmillan nurse can refer your husband to all sorts of services that you may need. I am incurable and my nurse referred me for counselling, for therapies and to welfare rights which applied for benefits on my behalf. There is support out there, it is often just knowing where to look. This is not easy to do when you are worried and stressed. Can I also ask that you speak to your husband's GP as the surgery will be able to provide services as well. It often just takes a little time for things to be actioned and communication between hospital and GP.

If any of this is unclear or you feel that you need more answers, can I ask that you ring the Macmillan phone lines, they are excellent and will give advice on how to get things moving. This is the link to contact https://www.macmillan.org.uk/about-us/contact-us

Hope some of the pressure on you eases when you get support in place.

A x