Both of my parents were diagnosed with terminal cancer 3 days apart, back in sept 2022. My mum has womb cancer and my dad lung cancer. They have both been struggling on for the last few months and have deteriorated considerably. I never imagined I'd be watching both my parents go at the same time. I've recently started to struggle mentally with it all, I feel like it's been bottled up and has now come to a head. I visit them a few times a week but feel like I'm annoying them as they are so tired. But I don't want to stop as I know time is limited. I yurn for my childhood, they were wonderful when my siblings and I were children (6 of us).... I feel robbed but also thankful that I have the happy memories. Its all just not fair. I've been pointed in the direction of this group to talk to people who are maybe going through and feeling similar things to me. Xx
Sending you an abundance of love. It is especially cruel to have 2 parents going through this, I am so sorry you are having to deal with this. When we are losing someone it is only natural to yearn for past times. I totally get what you mean about struggling mentally, my partner became ill very quickly 4 months ago, and mentally I am at the end. We not only have to be there for them but self care is also important. You absolutely must take time for yourself, no matter how hard it is. xx
Hi I am so sorry your going through this I read your post and it broke my heart I lost my dad to cancer when I was 23 now my mum is in her final hours and I'm 34 and it's absolutely hell to lose both to this awful degrading cruel cruel disease so to read your were losing two at the same time must just be unbearable why you why both you must have so much questions and worries because I know I do my big question is will I have it because both my parents did. You are doing your best my mum towards the end got frustrated with me but she didn't mean it they take it out on those closest to them so know that your parents don't mean it and they are greatfull you are there. Through all the pain I tell my self how much of a privilege it is to be loved so much by someone as I know many people didn't have that it sounds like you were and are very loved and you had a lovely childhood and grown up into a wonderful person which is as a parent all we can wish for. Take care of your self and speak about how you feel scream cry don't bottle up how you feel your not alone on here there is always someone to talk to who knows how you feel and that unfortunate because I wish more than anything none of us were ever here xx
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