Hi everyone. My elderly mum was diagnosed 2 weeks ago with stage 4 lung cancer and has spread to her spleen, like vet and lungs. The consultant gave her a timescale of a couple of days to 2 weeks therefore I brought her home to care for her and have moved temporarily into her house. My dad has early stage vascular dementia and Alzheimer’s and although he is aware that she is terminally ill, I don’t think he can retain this. No one in my family has had cancer before therefore I’m totally new to this. One day my mam is lucid and engaging in conversation then the next she is sleepy all of the time and has some aggression. She hasn’t eaten for 2 weeks and is now taking little fluids and is unable to drink from a cup due to coughing. I feel totally isolated from the world as my mam has me up most nights to care for her which I don’t mind but feel envious that my sisters get to visit in hour slots then go and get in with their lives. I have always cared for my mum and dad and wouldn’t have it any other way but then feel guilty for being envious of everyone else.
