My mum had breast cancer in 2019 and recovered in 2020, two years on she got a liver cancer diagnosis which she got in early June. I'm 22 I just finished uni, my mum is a single parent, when I came back home a week later she has her first chemo session after diagnosis. We all noticed she was abnormally fatigued even for someone going through chemo and one day I called emergency services, took her into emergency daycare and she lost all faculties and lots of blood. Spent every day at the hospital with her for two weeks with my 18 year old sister and grandma, turns out the cancer spread to her spine and brain, she is at home now and we are caring for her but she has days left. I'm in admin mode now sorting out everything legal etc but i also have a 17 year old brother who's not coping well. No-one I know has been through this or seen this so just thought I'd come on here to ask what to expect in these last days and after them, and what to do, how to possibly cope.
I’m so sorry to hear what you are facing so young. I haven’t been in your position, though my husband has incurable cancer and I have children a similar age to your brother. What I would say is that there is no right or wrong way to feel, everyone is different. Right now just be there with her as you will always have the comfort of knowing you supported her to the end. in my experience, the hardest times are after the funeral and getting used to the new ‘norm’. Take your time, be kind to yourselves and listen to how you and each other feel. Be aware of support options and talk with your brother so he knows what’s available. Most importantly you will cope, we are stronger than we know, and your mom will always be with you in heart and mind. I’m sorry I’ve not really given you the answers you looked for, though I hope I may have helped a little xx
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