Losing teeth

Hello Southy

I am really sorry to read that your Mum is declining after being diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer in October 2021 and that you have been dealing with Covid over the past week which has made it impossible for you to visit. 

I can't say with regards to Mum losing her teeth, that may be a question for the oncologist or doctor, it is not something that I have heard of before, as an end of life sign 

This must be so very difficult for you all.. I wish I could offer more guidance or thoughts 

Thinking of you

Lowe'

Hi, sadly my mum passed peacefully away in March. Slowly getting used to our new normal but miss her terribly.

Dear Southy 

I’m sorry to jump into your thread but wanted to send my sympathies at your loss. My husband also has lung cancer and has had no treatment as he is too ill. When I read the word ‘ peacefully ‘ it gave me hope that he will also feel little pain and go with us with him. 
I am full of worry about these coming weeks and how I will know when to get the bed for the living room, when to accept I can’t help him adequately, how to know what to do.
sorry if I bring back difficult memories but it’s good to see the word peaceful here. 
hope you are adjusting to life without your mum. 

sorry about other replies I don’t know why they happened 
best Wishes 
M 

I totally understand how you’re feeling and I was really worried how we’d know when the time was, but you just kind of do - as strange as that sounds. I got signed off from work on 9th March, mum had the syringe driver put in on 10th and she slipped away on 11th. It was very very peaceful and we held her hand, told her how much we loved her and that it was ok for her to go. Life has been strange without her and I miss her everyday. She was only diagnosed odes in October. 
Mum didn’t eat very much at all in the last week or so. She also slept a lot more and towards the final days, she had “terminal agitation” where she couldn’t get comfortable and seemed very confused. She knew we were there though and I remember taking to her and stroking her hand for a while after her last breath and after she slipped away because I remember reading or being told somewhere, that hearing is the last thing to go. That’s not to say my heart didn’t break and tears stream afterwards too. 
Our son is an apprentice funeral director, just 18 years of age, and he looked after her afterwards as well. We were so proud of him.

I’m sending you loads of love - everyone told me to stay strong and it’s really all we can do, but don’t be too hard on yourself either. These next few weeks will be the hardest time, but know that you’re not alone.

Take care

Thank you for your lovely words