Hi, I'm new to this unfortunately my mother in law was diagnosed 3 weeks ago with lung cancer and yesterday she was told it had spread to her spine and hips. Unfortunately she has not bern given long with or without treatment. I am trying to support my husband the best way possible and work out what is best to tell the children.
Hello Kirky1
Welcome to the forum, and although it is difficult to reach out sometimes, I am really pleased that you have.
I notice that you already introduced yourself to the community and had a couple of great replies, with support and advice links, I hope these have helped you in some way.
It is extremely difficult when we learn of a Cancer diagnosis, I remember well my own reactions when a diagnosis has been given to a loved one, but I wanted to mention that a prognosis is always a best guess only, sometime people pull absolute magic out of the bag and what we believe to be an almost imminent demise soon becomes a great victory, or extended period with unexpected positives.
I know also at times that people can become very ill very quickly, but unless that is the case with your mother-in-law try, if you can to focus on what can be done to help her focus and keep positive. The time she has left, as with all of us should be one of living, of making memories and as best as possible being happy, (easily said I know) and I hope that you and your husband are able to do this with your Mother in Law.
I don't know how old your children are, but I have found that children are very 'open' with discussions of illness, my two young granddaughters live with me, and my other six young grandchildren, who are very close to us are all aware that their Granddad is extremely ill, and have watched as he deteriorated and thankfully pulled back after reacting really well to his treatment, although not out of the woods yet, he is doing well, yet the children are all great in the way they interact with him.
I wish your mother-in-law all the best and send love and strength to you and your family
Lowe'
