Hi,
im new on here and had already posted in a different group but I have found this group is more suitable.
my great aunt, who is like a second mum and best friend to me, was told on Friday that she has a brain tumour. I think they said that it was a secondary cancer from her breast and spine to now her brain.
they said she has a few weeks to live, maybe a couple of months best case scenario. I cried on friday but now I feel like I’ve completely blocked it out and haven’t really come to terms with it.
Because she is an 80 year old woman I am finding a lot of people telling me that ‘she’s old so at least she’s had a good life’ which I agree with but I feel bad for being sad because of these comments.
I’m also worried for when that day comes when she leaves this world how I will take it, when will it hit me and will I grieve? I have never lost anyone close to me before so I don’t really know how I’m meant to handle this and when it will hit me?
Hi Ellexx
How sad to read that your dear aunt has been diagnosed with a secondary cancer in her brain, how truly heart-breaking this must be for you.
Please don't worry about what will happen when the day comes that she leaves this world, how you think you will react, feel, grieve will possibly be very different to your perception of how that may be. As your aunt is like a second Mum to you, try to share as much time together as possible, (in these covid times that is very hard indeed)
It is only natural that you cried when you heard the prognosis given to your aunt, there may be more tears to come yet, but for now. Take one day at a time if you can, say everything you want to say, or nothing if it has already been said or too hard to share, but ensure if you can that you enjoy as much of her as is possible.
It really never matters what ripe old age our love ones pass at, it is always too soon for those of us left behind.
Take care
Lowe'
Hi Ellexx
You know the words, you feel them in your heart.
Does she ever discuss with you next steps? if so, this is the time to talk, tell her how important she has been in your life, thank her maybe, for treating you like a daughter, does she know you feel as if she is a second Mum to you? if not it may be nice to tell her.
You will find the words Ellexx, once you start talking
Best of luck with starting that conversation.
Lowe'
