Heartbroken

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In January  2019 my husband was diagnosed with Prostate cancer and we were told that they were aiming to cure him rather than just manage it (as they said that he was very young for this type of cancer) He had radiotherapy and at his six month review that results were fantastic  and they believed the treatment had been a success. However at his next review the results were so bad that they had to be redone in case there was some mistake.  Long story short the cancer has spread, very aggressively and is now in his liver, lungs, spine, ribs and lymph glands.  He has been given a prognosis of 12-18’months  and I am heartbroken. This is the man I was meant to grow old with. It is our 20th wedding anniversary this year and his 60th birthday but there so many more milestones that we should be sharing - like our daughters wedding in 2020 for one. 
Since finding out two weeks ago he’s already got worse and the pain is bad but GP has upped pain relief today so hopefully that’ll help. 
Feeling lost, scared , angry, helpless 

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Hi Jillybean74,

    Im so sorry for this awful news, I know how devastating it is to receive and how the panic sets in each time they get worse or you’re awaiting another scan or call.

    I don’t come on this group as much now as I’ve moved to the ‘bereaved spouses’ group. My husband (52) was diagnosed with incurable stomach cancer xmas Eve 2019, and despite all the treatment and never giving up he died 5 weeks ago today. I am heartbroken. It would have been our 20th wedding anniversary this year and our grandsons 1st birthday to celebrate together.

    I just wanted to say that somehow you will find the strength to keep going for your husband. Treatment is improving all the time and everyday he is here is a day to fight and hope. Never give up.

    I will be thinking of you x

  • Thank you for your reply. I am so sorry that you have lost your husband. We also have a grandson who will turn one this year, what a coincidence. Not that I want anyone to be in this situation but it does help knowing that others have been there and have got through it. 

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember in reply to Jillybean74

    It’s definitely a work in progress. Some very bad days where my head is in a bad place but then some days where I can function okay so that’s all I can ask for right now.

    I will be thinking of you