How do you discuss terminal cancer

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Hi everyone I like everyone else here was hoping I would not need to join this group. But I am glad it’s here I have read some of the heartfelt messages and wonder where people get the strength to carry on.

My husband had oesophagus cancer and it has now spread to his lymph nodes. This week the hospital said 12 months to live which is a massive shock as he has been so well .I am absolutely heartbroken. My problem is i want to be strong for him but I can’t talk about it to him as I would just go to pieces and be of no help whatsoever to him. I can’t even ask him at the moment how he is feeling, I can only imagine . I have a good cry on my own when he is not there.  Has anyone else had trouble talking to their husbands or partners.

 Milie

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember in reply to FormerMember

    Hi Lee Bop,

    I am so very sorry that you lost your beloved husband. I happened to be reading our previous messages in this group and was wondering how things were as I know our situations were so similar as the time in terms of our husbands. So I am so sad to hear this news.

    I also lost my darling hubby recently, he passed away in hospital on the morning of 10 December. We are all devastated and Christmas Day was extremely difficult but we managed a few smiles thanks to my lovely grandson. Funeral arrangements now in place and other official stuff underway. But I am lost without mu true love and wasn’t expecting to become a widow at 46. At least my husband no longer has to suffer anymore.

    Please do come over to the ‘Bereaved Spouses’ group when you’re ready. I joined when I lost my husband and they have been an amazing support.

    My thoughts are with you x

  • Lee Bob 

    I am so sorry to hear you lost your dear husband. You both have been through so much and you must be exhausted now.
    Take care my thoughts are with you xx