Supporting people with palliative care

Hi Your post touched me as my friend has terminal brain cancer and has been like a mum to me, so i can relate to your post. I have struggled to cope and also felt guilty wanted time with her when she is so ill. I think it helped me to remind myself that I have never supported someone i love long term with cancer and that its OK that we both are going to get it wrong and possibly do and say things that hurt each other in this horrible process, knowing that we love each other seems to be enough. Trying to stop the feelings made them bigger, accepting you feel this way because someone you love is dying and that is painful and will need dealing with at some point in the future, but right now is about time with her. I found writing a story about our friendship helps.  

Hi thank you for taking the time out to reply. Im sorry that you and your friend are going through that too. That’s great advice. My friend that’s like a mum is now in a nursing home. She’s starting to get confused and forgetful. I’ve only been able to see her once since she was moved to the care home. It’s sad that covid means I may not see her many more times. I may start righting a journal as I used to write before. I hope things get easier for you. My other friend has a family around her which is good x 

Responding to you helped me clarify my thoughts a little.y friends brain tumour affects her thinking so there are times I'm not allowed in her house and she doesn't always want to chat, which is hard but I'm trying to accept what she can give and accept that when I do get upset that's normal. x