Hi. I hope someone may have some suggestions for how to help me help my mum. Mum has terminal bowel cancer and two weeks ago declined rapidly over a 24 hr period. The paramedics came but as she has a respect form to be at home at the end they did not take her to hospital. After a difficult couple of days, with the help of a pump and now daily health visitor visits Mum is comfortable and has no pain apart from a sore on her back due to being in bed now for 2 weeks which means she needs to switch position periodically. Friends who have lost parents tell me that it is all about them being comfortable and I totally agree I want her to be pain free however she now knows that its incredibly likely she will not move from being bedridden and is awake enough to know what is going on and she is down and fed up and i want to help but apart from sitting with her and chatting about what is going on it is hard to know how to help her feel any better. I know we are lucky she is not in pain but there is a mental side to this change which is difficult to know what to do for the best. Does anyone have any suggestions?
