Worried bout husband cancer

FormerMember
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Hi guys not really posted on here much my husband was diagnosed with terminal blabber cancer with mets in August last year he had chemo which was stopped early as it was making him ill so was told there wasn't any more on offer for him and they woukd just be keeping a good eye on him since his chemo has stopped he has been admitted to hospital twice with lots off pain and constant sickness we where meant to be having a telephone meeting with his consultant yesterday but coz he was busy he only spoke to my husband in which he said they are looking at starting chemo again in 2 weeks husband didn't ask any questions as to why now they are saying chemo when in January they said no I had so many questions I wanted to ask but didn't get a chance as they didn't involve me I needed to know if this is him coming to end off life if the chemo will make a, differance and why we are not being given any support through palliative care sorry for the long winded message just feel am banging my head off a brick wall 

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    Hi, I think I know what you mean and I had months of the same but when I spoke to the Macmillan nurses they were able to bring some clarity and offer some advice based on their wide experience. See how that goes for a start. Isolation, worry and the stress of shouting in the darkness is so hard to manage. Hope this helps. X

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    Hello Rudi - on the same journey with my husband who has terminal cancer in kidney adrenal gland liver and spine. Given the outcomes he decided not to go ahead with chemo. We are trying to manage his pain at home but frustrated by the system at the moment. If I am reminded one more time that as a consequence of covid 19  etc etc I think I may scream. Can someone explain why the district nurse is able to visit and she is an absolute diamond but no Macmillan nurses are allowed to visit? 

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    FormerMember in reply to FormerMember

    Thanks for ur reply hubby has decided not to go ahead with chemo as its not going make much difference to the cancer might just make him more ill. So glad am not the only one frustrated with the system at the moment like you if am told again its to do with covid19 I will scream like you we have a, district nurse who has been here from the beginning and is amazing and comes every week to see the husband but no one else is allowed sometime we feel so alone x

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    FormerMember in reply to FormerMember

    Thanks for your reply hubby has decided not to go ahead with chemo as its not going to make a difference to the cancer might just make him more ill and so glad am not the only one who is frustrated with the system at the moment like you am so fed up of hearing its a consequence of covid19. We also have a district nurse who is amazing but and comes to see hubby every week but not else is allowed sometimes feel so alone x