My dad is 64 with pancreatic cancer which has spread to his liver, lungs and bowel with mets and ascites in his abdomen.
He currently lives with myself, my husband and our 3 year old daughter. I'm also 33 weeks pregnant.
The last 4 or 5 days we have seen a massive decline. No energy, cold, not eating, sleeping during the day but not at night but also hiccups! I thought this was a strange one but apparently very common.
We've had our first palliative care nurse appointment today at the house and they have put him on the slow relief morphine with oral morphine in-between, anti sickness meds to help with the hiccups and laxatives as he hasn't been to the toilet for over a week now. He's eating very little, nothing at all yesterday and a rice pudding today. He is still able to get up and walk about himself but can see he is getting weaker and weaker. I wonder how long he will be able to do that for.
The palliative care nurse said today that the way he is eating is not sustainable and it's only just dawned on me that's what she said. This was said when I asked whether he could get better or whether this is the start of the end. I came here looking for what sustainable means or looks like. How long people usually have between stopping eating/eating very little to the end. If there is anything else I should be looking out for.
I thank anyone who replies, I know it must be tough reliving experiences or even sharing current ones you are going through.
As you can see, on my bio, my husband is on end of life care atm. It's really hard, a nightmare , but there's lots of supportive help and advice here. I'm no professional but I am currently going through it.
Take care of yourself 
